This is the very powerful question that you need to ask you on a daily basis.
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How to Be Mentally Strong

What would you say to yourself right now? Are you mentally strong? Are you becoming easily affected by what people say, and do you take things personally, or you are more focused on yourself, how you feel about yourself, and what your intentions are?

It is very crucial to know whether you are mentally strong or not, because from that point, you can decide where you really wanna take yourself, and to what extent.

I will give you an example from my story, so you know what I think it is to be mentally strong. I was dating a guy who was telling me from the beginning that he doesn”t want a relationship with me, but despite of that, I was doing every possible things to make him change his plans with me. Trying to make him fall in love with me, and all kinds of things that women do. You don”t wanna go this path. Please, stop trying make people like you. That is very weak, which is opposite of being strong.

It drove me crazy. I could”t focus on my work, because I was thinking only about me, and him not caring about me as much as I would love to. We were breaking up couple of times, because I wanted to be clear about us and define where this is all going. I couldn”t except anything less than being committed with him.

Long story short, after our last breakup, not long after that, I start to miss this guy again, and I decided to get in contact with him again no matter what. I promised myself that I am not going to be hooked up again by my crazy ideas, and just have fun, like normal people do, and not planning anything for the future.

I really hope you understand the story and how easily we get affected by the emotions we feel, not realizing that we sabotage ourselves and our situations, making them bigger than what they really are.

“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.” — Golda Meir Source

If something is going on in your life right now, know that you are bigger than that. I even printed on my sweater the quote: “I am bigger than this”. People loved to see the quotes on my sweater on the streets. ūüėÄ

If you want to be mentally strong, you must decide that you are not going to lead this life by being weak. Everybody can be mentally strong, and not being offended or affected by the things, people, or challenges around them.

Not long ago, I made a video about “How to not take things personally” that I think is closely related to this topic as well. Find the video below this paragraph. I think we often times give people our power, and naturally, they think they can do with us whatever they can. And it is true, until the day we decide to claim our power back, and do whatever it takes to be a masters of our lives again.

I can say for myself that I am right now mentally strong, but I wasn”t always like that. People was used to manipulating with me. My ex boyfriend as well, he was driving me crazy, again ūüėÄ but that is what he wanted, right? Who can drive you crazy? The ones that you are going to react to, with same exact way. But if you react to that with a response, they usually loose their power and can”t affect you anymore.

There is a huge¬†difference between reacting¬†and¬†responding. A¬†reaction¬†is typically quick, without much thought, tense and aggressive. A response is thought out, calm and non-threatening. A¬†reaction¬†typically provokes more¬†reactions¬†‚Äď perpetuating a long line of hatefulness with nothing accomplished.

I recently met a woman that had very schizophrenic behavior. Shortly after, she told me that she separated from her first husband, with 3 kids, and then she found a new boyfriend over internet who is in the jail at this moment, and her kids doesn”t talk with her. How destructive is that? People live all kinds of lives, yet they can”t handle what life throws at them.

You need to be stronger than your life”s hurdles. You need to say to yourself or to God, Universe, “Just throw at me, I will handle it no matter what”. And it is truly that, through this obstacles you really grow, you really expand, and become somebody who is really tough.

You want to be mentally strong, believe me. Don”t be easily offended, because hey, you are taking this life seriously. It is not that serious, believe me. Life is a game, and you are here to play that game, you get to decide what path to take, and it will always stay that way. You always have a choice.

“You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.” — Wayne Dyer

Those that are successful now, they”ve been through a lot more than we are. That is exactly why they are successful. You and me are just tip toeing through life, yet there are the ones that lost everything they had, but came back stronger than ever, mentally stronger than ever.

Many people beat themselves up, and that is not being mentally strong. Mentally strong is knowing, trusting, having faith in yourself and everything that you do. Why you and I are beating ourselves up, anyway? Because we are making excuses that we are not good enough I think, and that is so destructive. Why would you focus on what is not working instead of seeing what is working.? If you focus on the first, you are screwed, and you will get the more of what is not working.

SUMMARY

You will stay with you for the rest of your life. You better make this relationship with yourself work, because you cannot escape from yourself. People will come and go in your life, some will stay longer, some shorter, but you will have to deal with you all the time. Mentally strong is about knowing who you really are, and that there is no wrong path, only the path that you choose to take, and if it doesn”t work, change it.

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Secret Daily Teachings

Day 72

If you have “needing money” in your vibration, then you will keep attracting needing money. You have to find a way of beeing happy NOW, feeling good NOW, and being in joy NOW, without the money, because those great feelings are how you will feel with the money.

Money doesn”t bring happiness – but happiness brings money.

Day 74

Any words you speek have a frequency, and the moment you speak them they are released into the Universe. The law of attraction responds to all frequencies, and so it is also responding to the words that you speak. When you use very strong words such as “terrible”, “shocking” and “horrible” to describe any situation in your life, you are sending out an equally strong frequency, and the law of attraction must respond by bringing that frequency back to you.

The law is impersonal, and simply matches your frequency. Do you see how important it is for you to speak strongly about what you want, and not to use strong words about what you don”t want.

What you focus on expands

Day 76

When you were a small child playing make-believe, do you remember how convincing your imagination was to you. Well, this is what you must do when you want anything. Secretly, inside yourself, pretend that you have what you want already. For example, if you want friends, make believe or pretend that you have great friends now.

The moment you tip the balance by imagining and feeling that you have great friends now more than noticing that you don”t, you will have great friends.

This simple formula applies to everything.

Day 77

Man is what he believes.

Day 80

Ancient wisdom dating back thousands of years gave us the truth about gratitude. Every single religion speaks of giving thanks. All the sages and saviors of the world demonstrated the use of gratitude in all their teachings. The greatest human beings who have ever lived showed us the way with gratitude, and by their example became shining lights in our history.

Surely this is why Einstein said “Thank you” hundreds of times every single day.

Day 82

The effective use of affirmations depends entirely on how much you believe them when you say them. If there is no belief, then the affirmation is just words that have no power. Belief adds power to your words.

When you believe what you say, you just created it, no matter what it is.

Speak what you want

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Day 83

“In¬†every word you use, there is a power germ which expands and projects itself in the direction your word indicates, and ultimately indicates, and ultimately develops into physical expression. For example, you wish the consciousness of joy. Repeat the word “joy” secretly, persistently, and emphatically. The repetition of the word “joy” sets up a quality of vibration which causes the joy germ to begin to expand and project itself until your whole being is filled with joy. This is not a mere fancy, but a truth..”

Day 84

Whenever you remember, at any time of the day, say “I AM JOY”. Say it hundreds of times a day if you like. Say it often, but say it very, very slowly, giving equal emphasis to each word. I – AM – JOY. Feel the meaning of the words as you slowly say them, and experience as much of a feeling of joy within you as you can. Build on that feeling every single day. You will get better and better at it.

Feel that joy inside you more than you react to outside circumstances, and you will change the outside circumstances.

Joy attracts joy.

Day 87

You can turn your life into paradise, but the only way you can do it is to make the inside of you a paradise. There is no other way.

You are the cause, your life is the effect.

Bring the joy

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‚ÄčDay 234

No person or power in the outside world can compare to the power you have within you. Seel the power within, as it knows the perfect way for you.

Day 235

You cannot bring what you want to you if you are feeling stress. Stress or any tension at all is something you have to remove from your sistem.

You must let the stress go – it is the only way you can bring what you want. The emotion of stress is saying strongly that you do NOT have what you want. Stress and tension is the absence of faith, and so to remove it all you have to do is increase your faith!

Day 249

How is the movie of your life going? Do you need to make any script changes on money, health, or relationships? Is there any editing that you want to do? Today is the day to make any changes to your movie that you want, because today”s changes will be screening tomorrow.

You are creating the movie of your life and it is in your hands – every single day.

Know thyself

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Day 262

Beliefs are created by thinking thoughts over and over and over – until they become beliefs. Beliefs are a constant frequency that you are transmitting, and our beliefs are the strongest things that create our life through the law of attraction. The law of attraction responds to what you believe!

‚ÄčThat is why when you want to create something you must ask and¬†believe, and then you will receive.

Day 268

You are receiving thousands of messages from the Universe every single day. Learn to become aware of this communication from the Universe, who is speaking to you and guiding you in every moment. There are no accidents and no coincidences. Every sign you notice, every word you hear spoken, every color, every scent, every sound, every event and situation is the Universe speaking to you, and you are the only one who knows their relevance to you, and what the communication is saying.

Use your eyes to see! Use your ears to listen! Use all of your senses, because you are receiving communication through them all!

Day 281

The reason that “now” is where all of your power exists, is because “now” is the only time you can think new thoughts and feel new feelings. We cannot think thirty seconds from now, or feel something two hours ago. We can only think NOW. We can only feel NOW. And so this moment right now is your greatest point of power.

The rest of your life awaits you!