This is the very powerful question that you need to ask you on a daily basis.
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How to Be Mentally Strong

What would you say to yourself right now? Are you mentally strong? Are you becoming easily affected by what people say, and do you take things personally, or you are more focused on yourself, how you feel about yourself, and what your intentions are?

It is very crucial to know whether you are mentally strong or not, because from that point, you can decide where you really wanna take yourself, and to what extent.

I will give you an example from my story, so you know what I think it is to be mentally strong. I was dating a guy who was telling me from the beginning that he doesn”t want a relationship with me, but despite of that, I was doing every possible things to make him change his plans with me. Trying to make him fall in love with me, and all kinds of things that women do. You don”t wanna go this path. Please, stop trying make people like you. That is very weak, which is opposite of being strong.

It drove me crazy. I could”t focus on my work, because I was thinking only about me, and him not caring about me as much as I would love to. We were breaking up couple of times, because I wanted to be clear about us and define where this is all going. I couldn”t except anything less than being committed with him.

Long story short, after our last breakup, not long after that, I start to miss this guy again, and I decided to get in contact with him again no matter what. I promised myself that I am not going to be hooked up again by my crazy ideas, and just have fun, like normal people do, and not planning anything for the future.

I really hope you understand the story and how easily we get affected by the emotions we feel, not realizing that we sabotage ourselves and our situations, making them bigger than what they really are.

“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.” — Golda Meir Source

If something is going on in your life right now, know that you are bigger than that. I even printed on my sweater the quote: “I am bigger than this”. People loved to see the quotes on my sweater on the streets. 😀

If you want to be mentally strong, you must decide that you are not going to lead this life by being weak. Everybody can be mentally strong, and not being offended or affected by the things, people, or challenges around them.

Not long ago, I made a video about “How to not take things personally” that I think is closely related to this topic as well. Find the video below this paragraph. I think we often times give people our power, and naturally, they think they can do with us whatever they can. And it is true, until the day we decide to claim our power back, and do whatever it takes to be a masters of our lives again.

I can say for myself that I am right now mentally strong, but I wasn”t always like that. People was used to manipulating with me. My ex boyfriend as well, he was driving me crazy, again 😀 but that is what he wanted, right? Who can drive you crazy? The ones that you are going to react to, with same exact way. But if you react to that with a response, they usually loose their power and can”t affect you anymore.

There is a huge difference between reacting and responding. A reaction is typically quick, without much thought, tense and aggressive. A response is thought out, calm and non-threatening. A reaction typically provokes more reactions – perpetuating a long line of hatefulness with nothing accomplished.

I recently met a woman that had very schizophrenic behavior. Shortly after, she told me that she separated from her first husband, with 3 kids, and then she found a new boyfriend over internet who is in the jail at this moment, and her kids doesn”t talk with her. How destructive is that? People live all kinds of lives, yet they can”t handle what life throws at them.

You need to be stronger than your life”s hurdles. You need to say to yourself or to God, Universe, “Just throw at me, I will handle it no matter what”. And it is truly that, through this obstacles you really grow, you really expand, and become somebody who is really tough.

You want to be mentally strong, believe me. Don”t be easily offended, because hey, you are taking this life seriously. It is not that serious, believe me. Life is a game, and you are here to play that game, you get to decide what path to take, and it will always stay that way. You always have a choice.

“You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.” — Wayne Dyer

Those that are successful now, they”ve been through a lot more than we are. That is exactly why they are successful. You and me are just tip toeing through life, yet there are the ones that lost everything they had, but came back stronger than ever, mentally stronger than ever.

Many people beat themselves up, and that is not being mentally strong. Mentally strong is knowing, trusting, having faith in yourself and everything that you do. Why you and I are beating ourselves up, anyway? Because we are making excuses that we are not good enough I think, and that is so destructive. Why would you focus on what is not working instead of seeing what is working.? If you focus on the first, you are screwed, and you will get the more of what is not working.

SUMMARY

You will stay with you for the rest of your life. You better make this relationship with yourself work, because you cannot escape from yourself. People will come and go in your life, some will stay longer, some shorter, but you will have to deal with you all the time. Mentally strong is about knowing who you really are, and that there is no wrong path, only the path that you choose to take, and if it doesn”t work, change it.

Personal Development, Self - help

How To Be More Self Aware

Why would you want to know who you are? Why would you want to know your talents, strengths and weaknesses? Why is important? Why would you care? Who should care?You should be your own best self! You should know who you are, so you can improve your weaknesses, work more on your talents, try to make the most out of your strengths.

Self-Awareness can make you feel more happy, because you are more aware of your actions, feelings and emotions. Your relationships can improve, you can better perform at work…

If you wanna develop self awareness you need to ask yourself some deep questions? Just ask! But yourself! This is the only way how you can get to know yourself better. Asking yourself questions at all times, on a daily basis.

“When I discover who I am, I’ll be free.”
― Ralph Ellison, Invisible Man

You can”t get away from yourself by moving from one place to another, is another quote by Ernest Hemingway that I love so much. It teaches us that all is within you. All your flaws and victories. People travel massively. They are being bored in their home country, and that is all right. But if you are not happy in your country, how can you be more happy in another? You can”t get away from yourself by moving from one place to another. You better know who you are!

You need to find yourself again. You need to forgive yourself and praise those victories. You need to know yourself better.

Yoga and meditation is one of the tools that can improve your self-awareness. I like it so much, especially meditation, and yoga of course (I don”t know which is more important to me), because it teaches me to be more self-aware of my thoughts, feelings, emotions, habits, actions, etc. Yoga is one of the self-aware tools to wake up your body, to be more awake in general.

Self awareness doesn”t stop you from making mistakes, it allows you to learn from them. You are not going to beat yourself up by making mistakes, rather, you will learn from them, accept them, and move on, try different approach.

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When it comes to making mistakes, you are aware that this is a journey. The ones who are successful now, they made most mistakes, and you should know about that, be aware of it.

“It does not matter how long you are spending on the earth, how much money you have gathered or how much attention you have received. It is the amount of positive vibration you have radiated in life that matters,”
― Amit Ray

Don”t compromise yourself. You”re all what you”ve got said Janis Joplin. Know who you are and you are going to be unstoppable. Do you know the saying: “Know Thyself”? It is knowing your core being. It is knowing why you are doing certain actions. etc.

You cannot move from one point to another (better one) if you are not aware of the situation that you are in now. You need to accept the situation you are in now. You need to look closely at the situation, what led you to here, how you ended up here, and how you are going to move on to next, again (better one).

Journaling is one of the best methods to get to know yourself better. What did they say, what it meant for you, how you felt about that, how did you responded to this. It is really great method to see what is going on underneath the surface for you.

Mindful activities. When you wash your hands. Shower. Feel that water on your body. Rubbing soap in hour hands. It is training you to be more mindful in other situations.

“I know that I am intelligent, because I know that I know nothing.”
― Socrates

Record yourself. 😀 How bad do you wanna to get to know yourself better? You can record just your voice, or record yourself whole, talking to camera. It is a great exercise to see how the world perceives you. Tonality of your voice and your face expressions are everything. You are going to better perform selling yourself, at a job interviews, you will have better communication in general, your relationships will improve.

Working on your perception you can deliver your message better. People will start taking you seriously. But with a poor posture and low tone of voice will not take you anywhere. Start acting like the most confident person, like the one who has all in his or her hands. That is working on yourself. Working on being more self aware.

“Wisdom tends to grow in proportion to one’s awareness of one’s ignorance.”– Anthony de Mello

How do you spend your free time? What excites you? When have you been last time in awe? What are your hobbies? Passions? How you are going to spend your time after reading this article? Who are you really? In what state of the emotions you are most of the time? Are you in a bad or a good mood most of the time?

What are the things that you don”t like about yourself? What are some of your mistakes that you regret about? Take a notebook and write it down. Things that you don”t like about yourself.

How to Become More Self-Aware Throughout Your Life
  1. Look at yourself objectively. …
  2. Keep a journal. …
  3. Write down your goals, plans, and priorities. …
  4. Perform daily selfreflection. …
  5. Practice meditation and other mindfulness habits. …
  6. Take personality and psychometric tests. …
  7. Ask trusted friends to describe you.
  8. Ask for feedback at work.

This is such a beautiful article by a person who beautifully describes self-awareness, what it is, how to achieve it, and it tells you that is all up to you, the mindset that you wake up with in the morning upon laying at night in the bed. So good! Read it!

I am going to bring you just one quote from this article that resonated with me the most. And it goes like this:

Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes. – Carl Jung

I really hope I inspired you and opened your eyes to the one more world inside you?! I hope I helped you discover more of who you truly are?!

 

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Love,

Maja!

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You Are a Badass

I am going to be reviewing a book that I loved so much. It is called You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero. I like the funniness of the Jen Sincero and her style of writing. She is talking how you can kick the ass of fear, stop doubting your greatness and start living an awesome life.

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I am still under the impression of the book. Liked it a lot. The advises are very easy and understandable, followed with her life experiences.

If you are planing to write a book just look at the contents on the first pages of the books that you have, and you will see how are they organised. There are the parts, and then the chapters.

Jen wrote a 5 parts, and then the all parts have 6 or 7 chapters. The first part is about: “How You Got This Way”, second “How To Embrace Your Inner Badass” then the “How To Tap Into The Inner Motherlode”, How To Get Over Your B.S. Already”, “How To Kick Some Ass”.

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If you want to live a life you”ve never lived, you have to do things you”ve never done.

Part 1: How You Got This Way

We are all programmed to think how we are just our bodies and names of that body, but we are much more. We are the creators. My body”s name is Maja. But who is My? I am much much more than the things I do. I am much much more than I think I am. Other people programmed us, our parents, friends, society, but doesn”t have to stay this way. Do whatever it takes to work on your beliefs from now on, stretch yourself every day and help others do the same. Help them realize the stories that they saying to themselves. That they are much much more than their “weaknesses”.

All of us are connected to this limitless power and most of us aren”t using but a fraction of it.

You cannot create a future focusing on the past. You need to live in the present and constantly being focused to surrender on what it is, buy keep an eye of what you want to create tomorrow.

Part 2: How To Embrace Your Inner Badass

  1. APPRECIATE HOW SPECIAL YOU ARE

There is no other person that look and act like you. You are very special, unique and authentic. And please, from now on appreciate that. You are the only you that will ever be. You are kind of a big deal. That special you are. Never forget that.

You are responsible for what you say and do. You are not responsible for whether or not people freak out about it.

2. DROWN YOURSELF IN AFFIRMATIONS

Affirmations definitely work. I know for myself. I am repeating affirmations every day, talking out loud, or silently, and it feels amazing. I am at the point now when I am starting to believe all the things that I was saying  to myself.

Now, why you should affirm yourself? You”ve been living a lie, talking about yourself all the stuff that are half truth. You are so much more than you think you are. You are a miracle! You are that special. You are not your name, you are not your style, you are not your degree, you are not your role. You are so much more!

3. DO THE THINGS YOU LOVE

Take care of yourself as if you”re the most wonderful person you ever met. If you like going to live music and you don”t remember when you been last time, now is the time. Why would you not go? If this is something that you really like, why would you stop going there? Nobody is going to bring you to the live music, you need to bring yourself. Go to the live music tonight, and notice how wonderful it is.

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4. FIND A REPLACEMENT

Listen to your thoughts. I mean, really listen to them. What are you saying to yourself when you do some “mistake”? What are you saying yourself for the days not being proactive? What are you saying to yourself after kicking of something of kitchen counter? All that really matters. What are you really saying to yourself, is of big importance. Find a replacement. And say something nice to yourself next time.

5. DITCH THE SELF-DEPRECATING HUMOR

Laugh at yourself every day. Every morning when you see yourself in the mirror, instead of telling yourself “Yikes”, laugh at yourself, and tell yourself how not everything has to be perfect. You are perfect in that imperfection. People often times take lives seriously, but the matter of fact is, it is not that serious. Laugh at yourself every day and notice how you feeling after. You will feel joyous, happy and contentment. Also, beating yourself up is a low vibration, you are vibrating from a victim.

6. LET THE LOVE IN

We need our bodies more than they need us. So, appreciate your body. If your body feels good, all your mental state will feel good as well. I know myself every morning when I do yoga, I feel like the world is mine, and I feel like I can conquer the world, feel like I can jump out of my skin. Love your body, nourish your body with the right foods, go for a massage, give it a hot sex.

Comparison is the fastest way to take all the fun out of life.

7. DON”T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS

You probably not even realizing how special you are. Imagine Marilyn Monroe compared to Kate Moss and decided to loose her curves. We would not know Marilyn like a sexy lady with a hips and beautiful curly blond hair. Picasso is painting most beautiful pictures, you trying to copy some certain picture would look completely different, but you rock at some other things. That special you are!

8. FORGIVE YOURSELF (THIS ONE IS EXTREMELY IMPORTANT)

To be truly O.K. with yourself is crucial if you wanna live extraordinary, fulfilling and happy life. If you need to apologize to someone, just pick up the phone and call them. I”ll never forget when I picked up the phone and call my mother and sister (one call after another) to apologize for being childish and taking things personally, not speaking with them. I felt so relieving and free. Was wonderful feeling. Like the one: “Everything is in my control.”

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It is truly gem this book. It will make you smile and give you that trust of how all is possible, and especially for you. It gives you that sense of not taking things to seriously but working towards your goals no matter what. Do this ACTION today and buy book NOW. It is truly life saver.

Self - help

Two Questions You Need To Ask Yourself Daily

It is that easy

Now, you may be wondering, what are these two questions, and why should I ask myself anything? Well, if you don”t ask yourself anything, you might be on a wrong track.

I believe until now, you asked yourself and you continue to ask: “What do I wanna be when I grow up?” But that is it, sadly! Does anyone asked you: “How do you feel now?” I believe there are very rare persons and situations when somebody asked you about how do you feel. Why is that?

Well, that is in the generation of our parents, a generation that didn”t know any better, and that is completely fine. No one is perfect, right? Fortunately, people all over the world are waking up. People want to do the difference in society, and that is a beautiful thing to do.

 

The first question is:

How do I really feel right now?

How do you feel now about yourself, your current situation, and things around you, will really determent what are you going to manifest in the future. Do you feel excitement, joy, happiness, peace, calm, love, trust, hope, or are you feeling sadness, bitterness, overwhelm, tired, fatigue, unmotivated, etc? Which one of those?

Do you see the difference? Notice how do you feel daily, all throughout the day, and if it doesn”t bring you joy, switch it, just focus on the positive, find just one simple and small positive thing, and from there build momentum. That will lead you to one more positive aspect, to one more, to one more, to one more, etc. Do you see the difference? Notice how do you really feel right now, and if that doesn”t serve you, switch to the positive one. Feelings are triggered by emotions. I am sure you can find at least one positive aspect in negative. Dig deeper, and you will find it.

Don”t worry if you are going through tough times right now. There is always positive as well. Do you know about jing-jang sign? Where there is a dark, there is a light. Where there is a cold, there is a warm. Where there is a rain, there is a sunshine. Real matter is, where is your focus?

 

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The second question is:

What would I like to change about myself?

You see, we walk through life unhappy, unsatisfied, and doing nothing about it. Why is that? Because we are fear-full. We fear everything in this world.

For example, I am very indecisive. And that annoys me sometimes. Why I just cannot decide about something and go for it? Maybe because of insecurities that I had back in the days, I don”t know. But lately, I am asking myself questions, and trying to quickly decide by that first answer that pops into my mind, and taking immediate action, trying to get thing done.

Maybe you would like to change your posture, to have a straight back? Just do something every day towards that goal, just 5 minutes. You will feel proud of yourself, and from that point your confidence will skyrocket, what we all want.

 

Choose to feel good about yourself.

It is really that simple. Two questions. How do I really feel with this friend? How do I really feel in this house? How do I really feel in this job? How do I really feel reading this? How do I really feel writing this? Do you see? How do I really feel talking about politics, and worlds biggest problems? Does that serves me?

Every day do some little simple steps to improve your looks, knowledge, temper, character, business, romantic relationships, etc. The thing that you would like to change about yourself.

I would like to ask you now. Are you asking yourself any questions daily? And if you do, what are the questions that you are asking yourself? You are never going to get wrong asking yourself such questions, and wondering about everything that surrounds you.

I read the book called Mindset, and found these two that I shared with you now. By the way, I even wrote a Blog Post about mindset that you can find here.

I hope this text helped you, and you are going to start asking yourself better questions. If you have any other idea, of what we should ask ourselves daily, please share with everybody in a comment section below.

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Yours sincerely,

Maja!

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Positive thinking: Find happiness and achieve your goals through the power of positive thought

Just a short story about why you should/must think positive if you wanna live positive life.

Because you cannot think/be negative and live positive life. It’s impossible.

That’s the law. You know for the expression; “Like attracts like!”

In order to live positive you gotta think positive. It’s that simple!

Read this book called Positive thinking and I very liked it, that wrote Gill Hasson. Here is the link: https:to/2yqDdFF

P.S. Know that I will get commision if you click link above and you buy a book.

Book is full of advices and very inspirational.

Tomorrow I will make a whole Post about all the things that are very important in order to live happier life.

So, stay tuned!

Much love!

Maja