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Choose Wonder over Worry

Most of us have two lives. The life we live, and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance. Definition of Resistance is a refusal to accept or comply with something or ability not to be affected by something. Opposite of that is allow things or people to come to you or make that first step and make a risk. Never stop wondering and go for it. Release this blockages and be open to everything and everybody.

 

Never stop wondering

 

“I DON”T HAVE ENOUGH TIME.”

MEET STRESSED THE FUCK OUT.

One of the biggest frustrations I hear from people is that there”s too much to do, and there”s not enough time. “Not enough time”, of course, is a feeling. A myth! A story that when we buy into it, we run around trying to fit more and more into our schedules and lives. We rush from the next thing to the next thing, without appreciating where we are in this moment. We believe that if we do and accomplish and experience more, we will be happier and healthier and richer and wiser and loved by all. But instead, we”re just stressed the fuck out.

Take a sheet of paper and write down two lines. On a left side things that you would like to do, and on a right side, things that your soul craves, something that you really really want.

 

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“WHY NOT ME?”

MEET ENVY.

I once was the envious seething friend who struggled to be happy for others. When I witnessed others following through on the dreams that were still seeds inside of me, it brought up all kinds of demonic voices in my mind that told me I was not worthy or good enough or moving fast enough. Every morning when I jumped on social media, my story of being so far behind was reinforced by the highlights of others. While it was 9:00 A.M., and I was still in bed, blurry-eyed and yawning, my creative heroes were announcing the movie deal they just got for their book. A couple traveling the world had posted yet another video of their tanned toned bodies, and how they”re making a killing in their careers, which made me want to punch them both in the face. My ex-boyfriend was now engaged and with his fiancée halfway across the world, which could only mean one thing:

I AM A TERRIBLE, AWFUL HUMAN BEING WHO IS NOT CAPABLE OF BIG THINGS. I WILL NEVER AMOUNT TO ANYTHING. I SUCK, I SUCK, I SUCK.

Now, I stop measuring my success by likes and page views, and learned to instead measure it by inner truths expressed. It became less about receiving validation and applause, and more about uncovering whatever in me was ready to come through.

Shine your damn light.

Please be happy about your journey. We need more people to be joyful about their paths, and living in alignment with what feels truth for them.

 

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When you are open about enthusiasm, you will learn two things:

1. Who is truly and deeply an advocate for your success, and

2. Who is truly and deeply threatened by it, and who may even, consciously or unconsciously, try to bring you down.

It is not your responsibility to pull those who fall into the latter category up and out of the crab bucket. You need not be a savior to those who are still finding their way. Only they can do that.

​Jealousy and comparison and envy can devour us, so please do not let how other people feel about you devour you too. I”ve yet to meet someone who hasn”t dealt with some form of envy or comparison. The difference is: those who”ve moved beyond it were able to dismantle the scarcity-driven story in their mind that believed in a world of me versus them. In doing so, they got back to what mattered most: their work, their gifts, and the expression that wants to come through them.

And that”s what”s at stake right now: you best and brightest work. So shine your damn light, and let what you create radiate from the inside out. That”s the best thing you can do for yourself, the world, and those who are ready to receive your work.

To every person who”s fallen into the trap of comparison, remember this: The only person you can measure yourself against is yourself. No two people have the same background, circumstances, desires, values and gifts. When you”re caught up in what they”re doing and how far they”ve come, you”re losing sight of what wants your focus and attention: your own right and true path. Trying to constantly be better can hinder your ability to simply be. What matters is where you were yesterday, last week, last month, last year, and the progress you”ve made since. That is how you get ahead, come alive, and achieve and belong in precisely the way only you know how.

“THEY REJECTED ME…AGAIN.”

MEET DEFEAT.

Think about it: if you were to read the biography of someone”s life, and they experienced a perfect childhood with perfect parents, had perfect looks and were loved by all, and then their work went on to become an overnight success, would their story be very interesting.

I think not.

Interesting is Paulo Coelho being rejected over two hundred times before he went on to publish The Alchemist. It sold 65 million copies, was translated into eighty languages, and set the Guinness World Record for the most translated book by any living author. Imagine if he had given up at rejection 1 or 5 or 10 or 99 or 150 or 199? Sixty-five million people wouldn”t have been touched by his work.

“OH GOD. LOOK AT THEM.”

MEET JUDGMENT.

You cannot judge someone and love yourself at the same time.

Judgment is a mirror. A reflection. It shows you what you”re denying and repressing inside of yourself. It illuminates where you”re self-righteous. It”s a map, pointing you to the place that you”re afraid to accept within. As Carl Jung said, “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” What we judge in others wants to be loved and embraced within us. It”s an abandoned part of us calling out, “Hey! Pay attention to me! Notice me! Love me!” But so often we get caught directing our attention outwardly at them, and then we miss out on the wisdom that judgement is trying to deliver to us.

 

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The monk who sold his Ferrari by Robin Sharma

This book is such a gem

 

This book is a huge gem (diamond). I am really fascinated. It”s about the secrets of life and how to keep that balance between personal and professional life. I will surely come to read this book again and again, to buy my own copy, and make sure to underscore the parts that I resonated with, so I can reread it again and remind myself of these secrets and truths again and again when needed. It is really inspiring.

Do you believe success is your destiny? Are you hunger for more: more prestige, more glory and more money? You will never wish you spent more time at the office attaining success and money. You will wish on your deathbed to spent more time with your family and friends in a joyful moment together. I”ve also come to see that success on the outside means nothing unless you also have success within. There is a huge difference between well-being and being well-off.

“Every event has a purpose and every setback its lesson. I have realized that failure, whether of the personal, professional or even spiritual kind, is essential to personal expansion. It brings inner growth and a whole host of psychic rewards. Never regret your past. Rather, embrace it as the teacher that it is. I have learned that self-mastery and the consistent care of one”s mind, body and soul are essential to finding one”s highest self and living the life of one”s dreams. How can you care for others if you cannot even care for yourself? How can you do good if you don’t even feel good? I can’t love you if I cannot love myself.

 

Appreciate yourself

 

Take the first step to shifting your paradigm with these awesome life lessons from The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari. 

 

1. Cultivate Your Mind

The Quality Of Your Life Is Determined By The Quality Of Your Thoughts

2. The Purpose Of Life Is A Life Of Purpose

The Power Of Self-Examination

3. Do The Things You Fear The Most

Self-Mastery Is The DNA Of Life Mastery

4. Live With Discipline

Do The Vow Of Silence

5. Respect Your Time

Have A “Deathbed” Mentality

6. Practice Daily Acts Of Kindness

By Elevating The Lives Of Others, Your Life Reaches Its Highest Dimensions

7. Never Sacrifice Happiness For Achievement

Live In The Now With Your Children’s Childhood

 

The time is now

 

Investing in yourself is the best investment you will ever make. It will not only improve your life, it will improve the lives of all those around you. It is only when you have mastered the art of loving yourself that you can truly love others. It”s only when you have opened your own heart that you can touch the hearts of others. When you feel centered and alive, you are in a much better position to be a better person.

 

A Most Extraordinary Garden

 

Most people live – whether physically, intellectually or morally – in a very restricted circle of their potential being. We all have reservoirs of life to draw upon of which we do not dream.

                                                                                            William James

 

In a fable, the garden is a symbol for the mind. If you care for your mind, if you nurture it and if you cultivate it just like a fertile, rich garden, it will blossom far beyond your expectations. But if you let the weeds take root, lasting peace of mind and deep inner harmony will always elude you. Yet look at the toxic waste that most people put into the fertile garden of their minds every single day: the worries and anxieties, the fretting about the past, the brooding over the future and those self-created fears that wreak havoc within your inner world.

To live life to the fullest, you must stand guard at the gate of your garden and let only the very best information enter. You truly cannot afford the luxury of a negative thought – not even one. The most joyful, dynamic and contented people of this world are no different from you or me in terms of their makeup. We are all flesh and bones. We all come from the same universal source. However, the ones who do more than just exist, the ones who fan the flames of their human potential and truly savor the magical dance of life do different things than those whose lives are ordinary. Foremost among the things that they do is adopt a positive paradigm about their world and all that in it.

There is no such thing as objective reality or “the real world”. There are no absolutes. The face of your greatest enemy might be the face of my finest friend. An event that appears to be a tragedy to one might reveal the seeds of unlimited opportunity to another. What really separates people who are habitually upbeat and optimistic from those who are consistently miserable is how the circumstances of life are interpreted and processed.

 

All is well in your world

 

All success in life, whether material or spiritual, starts with that twelve – pound mass sitting between your shoulders. Or more specifically, with the thoughts that you put into your mind every second of every minute of every day. Your outer world reflects the state of your inner world. By controlling the thoughts that you think and the way you respond to the events of your life, you begin to control your destiny.

There are no mistakes in life, only lessons. There is no such thing as negative experience, only opportunities to grow, learn and advance along the road of self – mastery. From struggle comes strength. Even pain can be a wonderful teacher. To savor the good one you must know the bad!

I suggest that you stop judging events as either positive or negative. Rather, simply experience them, celebrate them and learn from them. Every event offers you lessons. These little lessons fuel your inner and outer growth. Without them, you would be stuck on a plateau. Just think about it in your own life. Most people have grown the most from their most challenging experiences. And if you meet with an outcome you did nor expect and feel a little disappointed, remember that the laws of nature always ensure that when one door closes another opens.

 

Door to paradise

 

I hope you will enjoy reading this content as much as I enjoyed reading this book. That is just a few or words of wisdom, there are much much more to learn. I promise you, you will never regret reading this book, if you are open for these teachings of course. When the student is ready, the teacher will appear!

Please, leave me a comment in a section below if you read this far, I would appreciate that. And please, feel free to like and share in you find it valuable.

 

I gave my best!

Maja!

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Thoughts are things?!

 

Is it really that way? Do we truly attract what we think about and who we are? I know that like attracts like, but do really thoughts and what we think about shapes our reality?

About the how like attracts like… I’ll never forget that day…I’ve been in one relationship that I didn’t enjoy at all. You might think now: “Why you stayed then?!” I don’t know! I guess I’ve seen just the goods in him, and all the bads I tried to forget, not to focus on. Until one day, I had that aha moment, when I realized that we was perfect match. I didn’t love and appreciate myself, and then he came into my life like a perfect manipulator.

 

Thoughts are not facts!

 

Of course I left him straight after the realization, but the question is still here: “Do we really attract who we are and what we think about?”

Please, please, please! If you read this far, let me know what are your thoughts about this in a comment section bellow. ⬇️ Would love to know!

 

I wish you a great day!

Yours sincerely,

Maja

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Positive Thinking

Why you should think positive

 

“You can, you should, and if you are brave enough to start, you will.”

 

You are what you think


Think positively and you”ll feel able to manage and do well. Think negatively and you are likely to feel overwhelmed and powerless.

Positive thinking brings hope; the feeling that what you want can happen or that events can turn out for the best. Negative thinking creates a spiral of unhelpful thought’s and difficult feelings. Even when good things happen, negative thinkers tend to see the negative aspects of a situation.

Of course, everybody”s view of the world is different, but if you think life is mostly good, you”ll notice opportunities and good things in your life; if you think life is difficult, you will find obstacles and difficulties in life.

For example, if someone congratulates you on a piece of work you”ve done and you say; “Thanks, but it wasn’t that good”, and then tell them about the aspects that didn’t go so well. In situations like this, for you, things have to be perfect or they don’t count.

 

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Moving on from negative thinking


Recognize negative self talk. Happiness doesn’t depend on how few negative thought’s you have, but on what you do with the ones you have.

Your negative thought’s are so powerful because you rarely have conscious awareness or control over them. You simply accept your thought’s and respond accordingly.

Think of something you would like to do in future – travel somewhere, follow an interest or hobby, change your career direction, leave a job or relationship – but haven’t done yet. Write down your thought’s and feelings about it.

When you”re in the habit of thinking and interpreting events in a negative way, it”s not easy to say positive things to yourself. It”s also not easy to say positive things to yourself when you”re worried, stressed or upset. It”s not easy but it is possible.

If you change the way you think, you will create a change in how you feel, what you do and how you behave.

Just realizing that your mind is thinking negative thought’s means you have already begun to de-fuse from those thought’s; separated yourself a little bit from them. Writing them down can separate you from them too – instead of letting negative thought’s swirl around in your mind, you can see your thought’s as just letters and words on paper.

 

Positive action

 

Taking positive action


Whatever way you choose to see it, positive thinking alone won’t get you what you want.

Whatever it is you want, you must plan, put in time and effort and work towards achieving what you want. You have to make the most of the opportunities, take some risks and be prepared to deal with obstacles, setbacks and disappointments.

 

“Success depends on your backbone not your wishbone.” Kamari aka Lyrikal

 

Having things that you want to do and achieve – having goals and aims – can give you a positive path to follow. In fact, working towards goals both requires and develops optimism and positivity.

 

“No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress, you”re still way ahead of anyone who isn’t trying.” Tony Robbins

Finding and keeping motivation


You may hear yourself say some of the following:

  • I”m not ready
  • It”s not the right time
  • It”s going to be too hard
  • It will take too long

These excuses can often sound quite convincing. But if you believe them, if you stay in your comfort zone, doing the same old activities and tasks on autopilot and not trying anything new, you could well be missing out. Nothing will change and you won’t get what you want in life.

So how to get motivated and stay motivated? By thinking positively, of course!

Decide what is the one thing you can do right now. Then do that one thing. Give it your full attention. Answer that one email, make that first phone call. Start filling in that form. Just clear out one drawer.

After a short time, the positive feelings which you would like to achieve from doing that activity start to emerge naturally. You don’t have to wait for your thought’s and feelings to change before you get going. Get going and your feelings will change.

Motivation is made up of three aspects – what you think, what you feel and what you do.

Recent research suggests that the way you sit or stand can actually affect the way your brain functions.

  • Stand or sit straight
  • keep your head level
  • relax your shoulders
  • spread your weight evenly on both legs
  • if sitting, keep your elbows on the arms of your chair (rather than tightly against your sides)
  • make appropriate eye contact
  • lower the pitch of your voice
  • speak more slowly

 

She is confident

 

Building your self-esteem and confidence


The best place to start building your confidence and self-esteem is from a position of strength. Instead of focusing on what you believe you can’t do, focus on what you know you can do and what you know makes you feel good about yourself There are a number of ways you can do this.

  • Focus on the things that make you feel good about yourself
  • Identify your qualities
  • Through positive personal affirmations
  • Positive people
  • Positive news

Dealing with disappointments and setbacks, trauma and tragedy


Continue to have goals. Let them drive you forward. As Friedrich Nietzsche said, “What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.” And that”s positive thinking!

Perception of the events is that you think you did wrong and now you feel like crap! And the more you replay events over in your mind, the worse you seem to make them. It”s like a game of Chinese whispers going on in your head: the more you replay it, the more distorted it becomes.

 

“Nothing is good or bad but thinking makes it so.” Shakespeare

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Designing your life

BUILD THE PERFECT CAREER, STEP BY STEP

Absolutely loved this book, because it shows you how to build and create life of your dreams.

Do you really think that someone else or something else is responsible for your life? Do you blaming others for your current situation? I know, It”s easier to blame others or something than to take full responsibility for your life. Everything that you decided to do up until brought you where are you now. Do you get it? No one didn’t told you what you should do, where, with whom. Your choices and priorities are the one. It”s hard to admit. I know! But honesty with yourself can bring you miracles. Alcoholic asks for help when he truly admits that he has problem. That”s when changes happen.

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SHE IS SELF-ASSURED

This book wrote Bill Burnett & Dave Evans and I will give score to their book 4, because I read the book very quickly, was easy to read which is not the case with every. And if It”s hard to read some book you should quit and find another one. That”s my advice to you! If you struggle to read, don’t understand anything, quit.

Book talks about Starting where you are. What they mean by that? Start with what you have. No matter where you are, what you do and what you have, just start where you are. About how to be immune on failure, how to build a team, how to unstuck yourself and how to design your dream job. Everybody today talk about Dream Jobs and Traveling the World. It”s possible, you just have to educate yourself of how to do that.

DISFUNCTIONAL BELIEF:

Your degree determines your degree.

REFRAME:

Three-quarters of all college grads don’t end up working in a career related to their majors.

True happiness comes from designing a life that works for you. You wanna create your life of your own terms, don’t let somebody else to make decisions for you. Get up, go to work, pay the bills, go home, go to bed doesn’t sound like a happy life. Wake up the next day and do it all again. Lather. Rinse. Repeat. Big NO NO, to this kind of life.

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DESIGNERS LOVE PROBLEMS

Look around you. Look at your office or home. The chair you are sitting on, the tablet or smartphone you may be holding. Everything that surrounds us was designed by someone. You can too! And every design started with a problem. A problem that you cannot live anymore every day the same.

Chairs were created because someone, somewhere, wanted to solve a big problem: sitting on rocks causes sore bottoms. Do you have any idea how to change your routine, build your own perfect career and do something that you chooses to do, live on your own terms. And run a business that benefits you and your family and friends, because you have more free time for yourself and them. Think of it! What you would love to do? What do you really really love to do? And do it! Just do it!

THINK LIKE A DESIGNER

Before you can do life design, you need to learn to think like a designer. Do you really think that you have control over what is going on in your life, or this is some outside thing and that you cannot do much about that? Of course that your decisions and moves that you made in the past, brought you here and now.

A well-designed life is not a life of drudgery. You weren’t put on this earth to work eight hours a day at a job you hate until the time comes to die. That may sound a bit melodramatic, but many people would tell you that this is a good description of their lives.

I will give you now tools that you can use in order to change your life for better.Don’t be afraid of trying new things. Start with a small things and sage risks. You have to change something in order something to be changed.

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  • Be Curious. Curiosity makes everything new. It invites exploration. It makes everything play. Most of all, curiosity is going to help you “get good at feeling lucky”. It”s the reason some people see opportunities everywhere.
  • Try stuff. When you have a bias to action, you are commited to building your way forward. There is no sitting on the bench just thinking about what are you going to do. There is only getting in the game. Designers try things. They test things out.
  • Reframe Problems. Reframing is how designers get unstuck. Reframing also makes sure that we are working on the right problem. Reframing is essential to finding the right problems and the right solutions.
  • Know It”s a process. We know that life gets messy. For every step forward, it can sometimes seem you are moving two steps back. Mistakes will be made, prototypes thrown away. An important part of the process is letting go-of your first idea and of a good-but-not-great solution. And sometimes amazing designs can emerge from the mess. Teflon was created this way. Super glue. Play-Doh. None of these things would exist if a designer somewhere had”t screwed up.
  • Ask for help. The last mindset of design thinking is perhaps the most important, especially when it comes to designing your life: radical collaboration. What this means is simple-you are not alone. The best designers knows that great design requires radical collaboration.

ANTI-PASSION IS OUR PASSION

Most people operate under the dysfunctional belief that they just need to find out what they are passionate about. Once they know their passion, everything else will somehow magically fall into place. We hate this idea for one very good reason: most people don’t know their passion. Research shows that, for most people, passion comes after they try something, discover they like it, and develop mastery-not before.

Most people do not have that one thing they are passionate about – that singular motivator that drives all of their life decisions and infuses every waking moment with a sense of purpose and meaning. In truth, most people are passionate about many different things, and the only way to know what they want to do is to prototype some potential lives, try them out, and see what really resonates with them. You don’t need to know your passion in order to design life you love. Once you know how to prototype your way forward, you are on the path to discovering the things you truly love, passion or not.

I will wrap things up here and say that never stop exploring and trying new things, invest in yourself and career. Commit yourself to that!

For more informations and tools how you can design your life HERE.

Thanks for reading and make sure that you invest in buying this book because It”s gold, gold that shows you that you really can create life and career you love.

Best of luck!

Maja!