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To connect with others should be one of your first priorities in life. Why?
Because, it is all about the relationships, and the people that you meet all throughout your life. Of course, you never know, who you are going to need for something, after some time.
So nourish your relationships with them regularly.
These are my 3 ways how to connect with others:
1. Look them in the eye
Would you trust somebody that can”t look into your own eyes? Of course you wouldn”t! Who are those that can”t see other peoples eyes? What are they afraid of? What do you think?
Next time, when somebody approaches you, and they start to talk, really be for them there, listen them, watch their face expressions, look them in the eyes.
If you do that from now on, for the rest of your life, people will start to look at you differently. They will say thinks like: “I like Maja!” “There is something special about her!”
They will trust you, and approach you, like you are some kind of guru. All of the sudden, they are going to say all their stresses and worries. People will start to open themselves up powerfully to you.
Would you love that to happen? Sure you would!
“When we feel lonely, we are not lacking in love. We are disconnected from love.”
― Reconnect to Love: A Journey From Loneliness to Deep Connection2. Send people love
Every time you are surrounded by people, no matter where you are, just send people love.
If I am in the kitchen, eating by the table, and somebody else enters the kitchen, I am going to send them love.
Just say to yourself quietly this sentences: “I am sending you love!” “I acknowledge your presence!” “You can trust me!”
It works like a magic. They will feel that.
And watch how their tension, or anxiety that they might have, will melt. They are going to feel comfortable in your presence.
Send people love on the streets, in the parks, to your neighbors, everybody that you come in contact with.
3. See the good in them
If you have any challenges with any of the persons, or certain kind of people, they are going to disappear. I mean challenges will disappear, people will stay the same. Just your approach will change.
Have you heard about the Wayne Dyer”s quote: “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change!” That is so true!
Write
Writing is very beneficial to you. Writing all the thoughts that you might have. All the challenges, stresses and worries that you might have with others.
I assure you, it is going to be freeing. It is going to feel like you have dropped the burden from your back. Link above about how to look at things differently is perfect for that. HERE is the link again.
Situations will change
Because love spoke through you! And they are going to feel that. They will trust you.
All your life you are only going to remember the moments and the feelings that you had, all throughout your life. That is why to connect with others is very important.
You want to do the impact on others, right? That is the only way to go. To try to understand, listen, watch them in the eyes, send them love, and find the good in all of them.
That can be applied to everyone involved in your life. You housemates, neighbors, work colleagues, siblings, family, parents, sisters and brothers… Everyone!
Just be kind to everyone. People are dying to be asked questions. Ask sincerely, and you are going to be amazed how quickly this works.
If you would like to read more about how to master conversations with people, do so here: How To Be Great Conversationalist.
This is amazing article about 10 Ways how to improve your connection skills. I can stand behind every and each one of them. They are equally important. My favorite though, is tone of our voice. So important!
Below is my Youtube video that I filmed couple of days before I started to writing this article.
I really hope you can see how excited and with confidence I am saying, how much this 3 things really work.
Watch this video and learn something new, something that I didn”t cover in the article.
People are craving for connection. You might say that you are going to live forever only with the cats and dogs, but be honest with yourself and really see yourself in that situation for years.
Are you really going to be happy? You wouldn’t experience life to the full. People and pets are two completely different creatures. We need human touch, nice word, and support.
Also, complaining about others is so bad. They are going to loose a trust in us.
I had a situation yesterday when I said that this wasn”t nice of him, and later on I read in the book “How to win friends and influence people” that we shouldn”t do that.
Connect with others powerfully
Because, criticism is futile. It puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person”s precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment.
In fact, Dr. Skinner, the world-famous psychologist, proved through his experiments that an animal rewarded for good behavior will learn much more rapidly and retain what it learns far more effectively than an animal punished for bad behavior.
Your turn to connect with others
With who you would like to connect on a deeper level and why? How would that feel and how would help you thrive, contribute to your happiness?
I think, to answer these questions is huge. because if you know how and why, that would change your social life tremendously. You would feel more encouraged to work on these same relationships.
What are one of the first things that you must do in order to take your relationships to the next level? Which one of the methods that I mentioned in this Blog Post will you implement first?
Tell us in a comments below.
See you there!
Love, Maja!
Frau Diller 