#family, Relationships

Why family is important

Family is shelter, security, and first place to be. It is everything when you arrive to this planet. It is your cozy up place.

Not everybody has amazing family support, and I know that this might sound harsh to believe, but hey, what is perfect in this life.

“Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family: Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.” — Jane Howard

Everybody on this planet somebody raised up. Me raised up my parents, you might raised up your grandmother, aunt, or somebody third. That is not really important who, what matter is that they gave you shelter, food and support.

That doesn’t have to be grandiose love and support, but know that they gave you something. They gave you what they had.

Family is teaching you what to do and what not to do.

There are a lot personalities and characters in every and each one of us, belief systems, habits, etc. I know that you didn’t like something that your parents did, but know that they didn’t know better. They had the best intentions at all times, every time!

Family is everything
Family is everything

You learned what you are certainly going to implement in your own life and family life, and you learned what you are not going to take with you in your adult life.

All is happening for the reason.

If you still have your own family, whether you are a parent or a child, are you happy with what you have? Do you feel understood, appreciated and loved for who you really are?

If you do, I congratulate you, because this is a really beautiful thing, but if you don’t, know that you still have a chance to turn your family life around.

First step would be to really see what you have, who are your parents, and how do you feel beside them?

Second step would be to determine what you want to have in your family, how you interact with them, and how they make you feel? You can make a list of the things that you want to experience.

Third step would be work. Work on bettering your overall family relationships, for whoever you call your family member. Working on bettering yourself first, your communication, love, understanding, etc.

If you still don’t know how family life is important, read this article on 10 reasons why family life is crucial to live happy and fulfilled life. Hope you are going to love this article as much as I did.

1) Family introduces you to the new world when you arrive on earth.

2) Family helps us in our various developments like mental, social, physical, and emotional.

3) The Family is the one who demands less and gives us more as possible.

4) Family accepts us in all possible conditions whether good or bad.

5) Family brings out our personality more effectively.

6) Family is the backbone of one’s life that is the main supporting system of our body.

7) We cannot deny that family is the one who supports us financially also until we get a job.

8) We get recognition and name in society because of a family.

9) Every other member of the family has its own importance and value.

10) Family gives you wings to fly high in the sky to achieve your goal.

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Your family member can be anyone

Whether a person is your blood or not, if you have a truly connection with this person, you can call him/her a family.

Our friends are also family. We spend so much time with them. Especially in the early days. We play, we fight, we have fun.

Family is also overrated. Unfortunately, many parents think that they can do to their children whatever they want, but that is far from the truth.

You don’t posses your children

You are the mentor and teacher to your children. And your job is to raise strong, confident, and ready for life kids. They are not here to work for you, they are not your slaves.

Please, don’t get me wrong. I am not saying that you are the one. I just wanted to mention that there are the families that work that way, and I think this is not healthy, for nobody.

If family is important to you, you’re going to make it work, if not (it’s on your second or third place of the importance) then you won’t do anything about that. Both are O.K.!

I will never forget the day when I realized that I was always praising my family, and saying how family is first, but I was miles away from them.

You are not doing any good being separated miles away from your family. Of course, for a short while, but certainly not for a longest.

There are lots of families separated from their mpthers and fathers, working in another countries, just because they have to earn money for bread and milk every day.

Kids are growing up separated at least for one of the parent and they cannot understand why. Do you want to live this kind of lifestyle? Me certainly not! This is not life, this is survival. I understand that they have to earn for the living, but hey, there are other options that they didn’t though of. And it is, there is always solution to everything, we just need to look for it, be resourceful.

Conclusion

Family is really important. It sets you up for the life.

Define what family means to you. What is like living in family? How do you feel? What do you do with them? Where do you go?

Define a term family for you and start living it. Act as if! Do whatever it takes to live the family life you really set yourself to be.

Good luck in that, because you can.

#attitude

Cut The Crap And Feel Amazing

Many people let other people and the circumstances to let them down. Why is that? Because they think that is normal. It is normal to take whatever someone is saying to you, but is it really true? No! Cut the crap that doesn”t serve you, that doesn”t uplift you, and that doesn”t make you feel good.

Life is too short to dance how other people make music. You should be able to make your own music, and dance, make the moves as best as you can and know how.

These are the ways on how you might be taking the crap in your life you don”t even realizing it:

  • You feel bad in certain environment, stressful or nervous

I was working at the restaurant that was far from my house and I asked for the transfer in another same restaurant chain, the one closest to my house. As soon as I arrived, I realized that this is going to be a challenge for me. A management that didn”t know how to lead, the restaurant location was very busy, unorganized staff, and the worst of all, the manager was telling me every day things like: “Why you had to come here, I didn”t want you or need you!” I felt terrible, but I knew that this is not because of me, it was her. She was the one who was going through some stuff in her own personal life.

  • People that you are seeing doesn”t make you feel good, you feel drained after speaking with them

I knew plenty of people that just wasn”t for me. I remember a guy that I met in a bus. We were both listening music and enjoying it. At one point our eyes met, and then we started to talk. We were seeing each other after that, but soon after I realized that he was too pushy. He was acting like he is the most handsome guy in the entire world, and he wanted to be seen with me wherever we go. I just wanted to be natural, I wanted to be me.

One day when we were walking through the town, and he had his important talking moment, I just turned around and left the opposite direction. He tried to follow me home, but I was determined  to end up this relationship. Since then, I felt like new born.

Cut the crap people from your life. People that doesn”t make you feel good, people that drain your energy, people that doesn”t really ask you how you feel, and people that always want something from you, other than you. Life is too short to have those people around you.

  • You feel like a crap, your emotions are very low

I felt bad most of my life, I admit it. And I started to feel amazing the day when I got really tired of feeling bad about myself and my life. I decided to feel amazing, and guess what, it feels amazing to find the amazing in this amazing life. haha You know what I mean?

Not all the time you will feel amazing once you decide to do so. For example, two nights ago I was drinking, and the day after I felt terrible, had a headache and the zero energy. All day long I spent in my bed, doing nothing, just sleeping. Of course I felt bad, and the worst of all I beat myself up for that. Now that I am feeling much better, I am asking myself why I just couldn”t relax, and enjoy my sick moments, instead I beat myself up.

We are always going to go through some “stuff” and that is ok, that is life. Life is roller coaster, up and down, it is not a straight line. As much as you try to find the good in everything, you will find the good in everything. The question is: “How hard are you willing to work for that?”

 

  • Job that you are working at is not satisfying to you, zero joy

Say stop. We are trading our precious time for that unsatisfying job. Life is too short to give our time to the people and company that we don”t believe in. And that is true! The moment you realize that you don”t like it, and that you feel scared of being at the same job all your life, should be motivating to you.

I am going through the same. I always wanted to be an entrepreneur. And I started some entrepreneurship endeavors years ago, but it didn”t work, and I quit. I started again couple of years ago to do the things that I really like to do, scale it, build it, and then work on that full time. But I still work for somebody else, and that is O.K., it is not going to last forever, I will build it now, and never give up.

If you are at the job that doesn”t motivate you, commit to finding a better one. For example, I breathe and live entrepreneurship before and after my actual job. You can do the same. Everyday go to job marketplaces and look for the job that is better for you than the one you currently have. If you don”t have an education for that, go and sign up for the school, either online or physically. I guarantee you, if you are going to look for the better, you will find the better.

When it comes to finding better job, job that suits you, in case you don”t know yet what should you go for, try different jobs. I changed plenty of jobs. None of them satisfied me enough. Why? Because I wanted to be free, I wanted to be fully creative. For me, entrepreneurship was the only way.

Repeat after me: “That was the last year of tolerating less than I deserve!”

  • Complaining

Why do we complain? Why humans complain? Is it because we are not taking full responsibility for our lives or what? Because hey, if you take extreme ownership of your life, there is no room for complaining. You know that you created everything what is going on around you.

Complaining is such a waste of energy and time. Instead of thinking happy thoughts and planning your amazing future, you complain of the dirty kitchen floor. Big no-no! Who cares about the floor?! Go and focus on creating your dream future.

What do you think? What are some of the craps that you need to eliminate from your life, that grabs your attention from the things that you really want for yourself, family, and friends?