How to be authentic

Authenticity is something that is of great value these days, because everyone try to copy what is trendy, and all the influencers do that as well. How good or bad is that? What do you think?

I heard months ago from Gary Vaynerchuk, that basically people love love. Whatever is going to be trendy, and it is trendy now, people will love it. And there is nothing wrong with that.

But what should you be doing, is asking yourself every day: “Am I going after that because it is trendy, and I don”t really enjoy it, or do I really enjoy it, no matter how trendy or not it is.

For example, everybody are texting each other these days. There are the groups created for every sorts of organizations. You  try to be different and authentic! Text somebody private, talk with them in private, or call them. Actually connect with other being in person. That is being authentic, being different. Human touch and connection is huge.

The hunger for authenticity guides us throughout our lives. People strive for joined-up living, where on the one hand what they say and do reflects what they think and feel, and on the other what they think and feel reflects who they are.

Stephen Joseph has pioneered developments in research into authenticity, drawing on the solid science of positive psychology to develop what has become one of the gold-standard tests for assessing authenticity.

His and others’ findings reveal that when people are in relationships in which they feel accepted, understood and valued, they drop their defences. They naturally begin to examine themselves psychologically, accommodate new information and live more authentically. What’s more, the latest studies reveal that it is authenticity that leads to true happiness.

Be different.
Put your mask down.

How to be more authentic:

  1. Be aware of yourself
  2. Embrace vulnerability

Self awareness is the key. If you”ve been wanting to be authentic, your true self, and that is your goal, know that you are already successful. Many people don”t even know who they are, what they are, and what they”ve been doing.

Watch where you go. Be only observer. Listen to your breath, listen the words, sentences that you”ve been saying, see who are your friends really. Notice what you wear for example, how you wear, and how that makes you feel. In general, watch how you feel at all times.

It is practice!

Everything in life is practice, everything. For example, if you don”t like how you look in profile, you are not quite happy with your teeth, or you are shy to put the big smile on your face and laugh out loud, actually do those things. Do them, despite of how that makes you feel. You already want them, so do them, regardless of how confident or not confident you actually feel.

Read our post on Feel the fear and do it anyway

After some time, you are going to be so comfortable in your skin, that you are going to ask yourself why you didn”t do that before, in the first place.

People love people for who are themselves, no matter how they look like, they actually like their energy. Have you even been drawn to somebody, staring at the person in the video, you didn”t quite listen to what are they saying, but they had that vibe that you liked, and you couldn”t stop staring at them? That is it! They”ve been for who they are!

Face your mask down!

Your number one job in the world should be how you feel. If you feel like this is the thing that you should be doing, do it, and if it comes from the good intention, even better.

We all wear masks at all times. Some more, some less, and that is ok. It is to protect us.

You are not you from yesterday

The you yesterday is not the you today. And you that you are going to be tomorrow is not going to be the same you you are today.

We are constantly evolving, we are constantly changing. So fully authentic you is you in this present moment. You are who you need to be today, and that is perfect you right now.

“There is nothing more beautiful than seeing a person being themselves. Imagine going through your day being unapologetically you.”
Steve Maraboli

Buy the book how to be Unapologetically you HERE. 

As you are going to open that link, I highly recommend you to purchase this book and start learning how to be yourself. Even better, the site Book Depository is the site that ships worldwide, for FREE.

Many eye and heart opening moments in this collection of thoughts. With millions of copies shared globally, this book reflects Steve’s confidence in his own skin and willingness to share his unapologetic truth about happiness, success, spirituality, and life.

Life example

Let’s say you feel pretty today, and you decide to share your picture on social media, because hey, you feel pretty today, but you say a thing more, you don’t know for how long will it last, tomorrow you are going to feel pretty ugly. And that what authentic you means. I think!

Being vulnerable and really saying what is on your mind and how you feel about that.

It is not sugarcoating it. It is just expressing real you. And that what truly you is. What do you think about that?

The ability to know when to be quiet and when to say something

Being authentic is also saying no, when you wanna say no, and say yes if you feel like say yes.

Many people are people pleasers. We don’t wanna be one of them. Why? We want to be true to ourselves, we want to look after ourselves first, no matter what anyone will think of us.

To do that, when you come in situation when you need to decide whether to go after something or no, take some time for yourself to think. And if your gut intuition is saying NO, go and say no, no matter what.

Of course they will blame you, think you are selfish, but stick to it, believe me.

We really hope this article is going to help you be authentic and for who you really are.

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How To Shift Your Paradigm

Take an honest look at your life. We tend to lie ourselves. Are you really living how you wanna live? Do you like what you see? Are you behaving how you wanna behave? Do you like who you are?

Paradigms are generally defined as a framework that has unwritten rules and that directs actions. A paradigm shift occurs when one paradigm loses its influence and another takes over. The concept defines paradigm and paradigm shift and explains how it can relate to company strategies and industry cycles. Paradigms are set of ideas that we have around everything. It is the way how we eat, sleep, work, study, read, having fun, do the household things. Good news is, paradigms can be changed, you just need to realize what didn”t serve you, and let go of the way that you was doing, and implement some new and productive strategies. 

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It is the way how you think, how you talk, how you breathe, how you walk.. You are programmed to earn that amount of money. You are programmed to date this kind of man/woman. You are programmed to do this kind of work. You don”t know for any better or different. Realize that now, know it is possible, you deserve it, and take daily baby step actions towards this better goals.

Our environments are also programming us. Your parents programmed you. What are the cases that you are living same or a similar life now as your parents used to live. How you can change that? Think how would it be like if you had a parents that were nice, happy, caring, full of trust.

Here is exercise that I highly recommend:

Step One: Write down one thing – that goal, that dream, that challenge that you have not yet resolved in your life. The subconscious mind thrives on detail, so describe it to yourself as vividly as you can.
Step Two: Write down every association that you connect to this thing: everything you think about it, good and bad, everything that the thought of it brings to your mind.
One approach I have found extremely effective is to “map” it in much the same way writers come up with plot concepts. Draw a circle around the words or sentence you came up with in Step One. Then, in the space around that circle, write down your associations as they come to you, encircling each one and connecting it with a line to the original encircled goal. When you feel like you’ve come up with a substantial number of associations, take a good look at what your mind has shown you. You’re looking at your paradigms.
Step Three: It’s time to address your paradigms and ask “why?” I suggest that you zero in on a few of the most powerful paradigms, the ones that have the biggest negative impact. Ask yourself, “Why do I think this? Where does it come from? Where did I get such an idea?” Keep on digging until you’ve exhausted every possible scenario. And finally, now that you know what your paradigm is on any given topic, create an affirmation that will assist you in re-programming your mind, something that is the opposite of your paradigm. For example, if your paradigm is you’ll never earn a lot of money, your affirmation might be: I am so happy and grateful now that money comes to me on a continual basis through multiple sources. I am a magnet to money; I now have all that I want. Write your affirmation on a 3×5 card and repeat it daily, as many times as possible. In time, you’ll begin to notice yourself thinking and acting in a different way. And, just when you think you’ve got it, it will be time to work on another paradigm!

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A paradigm is a standard, perspective, or set of ideas. A paradigm is a way of looking at something. The word paradigm comes up a lot in the academic, scientific, and business worlds. A new paradigm in business could mean a new way of reaching customers and making money.

So, the new way. What are the old ways of something that you was doing and you know it didn”t or doesn”t serve you? Try different approach to something. Do the different way combing your hair. Instead of going to the kitchen and making yourself some coffee upon waking up, you can read a book after having some big glass of lemonade and then having coffee along with your breakfast. That is just one of the examples.

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Tell me in the comments below what you can do differently today or tomorrow, at your job, next job interview or a family gathering? What you can do differently in order to get some better and new results?

Life is not just a set of same old actions, people or destinations. Dare to do some things differently today and see how easy and exciting is to get some new and better results.

Do the exercise today as well about shifting your paradigm. In this exercise you will realize how same old actions led you to get same old results. You need to channge something in order something to be changed.

Smart and wise old man Einstein once said: “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.”

As I said, everything is easy, but only if you are aware of the things that doesn”t serve you. Life is a set uf the ups and downs, and nothing is wrong with that, you just need to realize what led you down and change it. There is no such thing as something for nothing. You need to work for it.

First thing is this exercise above that I mentioned. It is very easy, but you need to be honest with yourself.

Please like this text, share with your friends, subscribe for more, and don”t forget to leave me in the comments below what are the things that you are going to change from today on.

I wish you every success!

Sincerely, Maja!