How To Stop Self Pity

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Why it is that we self pity ourselves? Who are we to say we are in unwanted situation? What that even means? There is no positive or negative, only thinking makes it so!

Self pity is coming from thinking small

What do you guys think? There is amazing book about “The magic of thinking big:”

Who are you to think that you are in unwanted situation? I will always say that somebody out there is praying to be in your situation. I hope you are having fun for where are you now, and what your situation is.

True Story

The other day I was walking with friend of mine and she was telling me stories about how stressful she is now that she became pregnant, and how stressful it is to move out to a different house, change the country and stuff like that.

I was like this is stressful to you? How come?! I was thinking this is the ultimate success for me. To have a guy, baby is on the way, planning future… But no!

The very next thing she said to me that many people admire me. Admire me?!?! Who am I to be admired to? I am just an ordinary girl, living by herself, doing her own stuff, going out here and there. There is nothing special in my life.

But it”s wasn”t for her. She admired me that she doesn”t have that freedom that I have right now, she doesn”t have that free will that I have. That was like, woow!

Can you see now that we see success differently?

Emotional Scale

There is something called Emotional Scale believe me or not. 😀 There are many emotions that we experienced until now, or will experience. The problem that we face, is because we stay for too long at one, and that is why we feel stuck.

You need to have a drive, you need to want feel better about yourself no matter what. You are now in the bubble and you feel comfy, because you are lazy to do something about yourself, your life. Isn”t that true!?

It is scary to reach out to a person and ask how, buy that book, because what will my spouse think. Scary to invest that money!

Everything is scary and uncertain, but guess what, we are going to do it anyway, because we have extreme ownership about our lives, extreme.

The most important thing

The quality of your life is the quality of the questions you are asking yourself. In this blog post I talk about the Two Questions You Need To Ask Yourself Daily

If you do this everyday, I promise you, you and your life will shift yesterday. Like you can change your past. hehe Not quite literally, but you get the point.

Everyday, ask yourself: “How do I really feel?” and “How can I make it better?”

Check maybe you are focused only on you

Faith plays huge part

We don’t have a faith in ourselves, that is why we self-pity ourselves, and we don’t believe in God.

Saying that you believe in something and then worrying, self pitying yourself is not a faith. It is contradictory. That is not a real faith.

Everything is interconnected in life.

Ask yourself: “In comparing to what?”

In comparing to not to have your parents alive. Have somebody to sleep with, but you don’t love him or her anymore?

In comparing to what?

There can always be worse. Always! We complain because we think the world is spinning around us, we miss to see that you are not the only individual that is going through tough times.

You are the world yourself, they are the worlds themselves. It is selfish to think you are only one who is in unwanted situation.

Remember this: ” If you feel bad, check maybe you are only focused on you.” And that is so true. We often times can”t see far from us, but there are another world. The are the people that need attention too.

A lesson

I watched video on Youtube from the Coach Corey Wayne, it is here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X3jSBRR6Gos.

He was basically saying that he knows the people who has some physical disabilities, but they decided to make the most out of their lives, see the good in that are they disabled to. Isn”t that fascinating?!

Like how dare ara you saying that you are in unwanted or negative situations?! Look around you! There are the people that sleep under the bridges. Husbands manipulate their wives. Moms have a sick kids. Who are you to think only about you?

You are the world. We are all worlds. Take extreme ownership about your life and keep moving forward, towards the better future.

Here is the video that I made also:


You are going to feel like imbecile

After studying and researching all those people that they were disabled and in great poverty, but now succeeded, they are happy and they live their lives to the fullest, looking at yourself and your life, you are going to feel like imbecile.

Why we feel sorry for ourselves now and create same situations all over in our head, but instead, look honestly for where we are now, accept that, and then move on, create a better tomorrow? Why?

We don”t believe in God

I am not saying that you should believe in a God, and that God exists, but I am saying that you don”t have a faith in belief in life, in you, the creator that created you for some reason and purpose. We don”t believe in some greater power, and yet we don”t believe in ourselves.

What do you think? How to stop self-pity and why do we self pity ourselves? Are you pitying yourself? How that feels like? Is it uplifting, motivating, or energy draining? What made us think we are not good enough? There is something wrong with ourselves our lives?

“No more excuses. No more self-sabotage. No more self-pity. No more comparing yourself to others. Time to step up. Take action right now and start living your life with purpose.⁠”
― Anthon St. Maarten



How I Got Angry At Myself

It is for real. People can get so angry at themselves, but the anger is a good emotion. How come you might be thinking?! Because there is an emotional scale. Anger is better than revenge, hatred, jealousy, insecurity, fear, grief, or depression. Now you see how being angry is better than being depressed.

This picture below may not be suitable for the angry post 😀 but I Liked the emotion of tiredness and overwhelmed girl on this picture. It shows so much!

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I was at the job doing some thing, and two of my managers asked me to come over with them. The first thing I thought is: “What did I done wrong?!” I came to them and they just asked me to do something. It was at that moment that I realized how I do not believe in myself, and it was frustrating. All day long I was thinking how I need to do something about it. I need to believe in my capabilities now more than ever. Enough of the insecurities, enough of the doubting. If you have any suggestions about what I should do, please do let me know in a comments below.

Self-doubt can destroy everything that you worked for until now, it is self sabotaging. Why would you not believe in yourself, if you are trying hard at everything that you do?

“When you stop living your life based on what others think of you real life begins. At that moment, you will finally see the door of self acceptance opened.”
― Shannon L. Alder


I asked myself why I doubted myself at the first place. It is an eye opening question. Why this? Why that? And eventually you will come up with an answer. About two questions you need to ask yourself daily read HERE. Questions are very, very powerful. But you need to ask them sincerely and openly, and don”t be afraid of the answer that you are going to get, because the answer, whatever it is, will set you free.


Study anger. I was so happy when I realized that I still have limiting beliefs, because now I can work on it. Accept it and move on, do it better next time, forget about it. That is such a relieving emotional moment. You are getting so much lighter.

I found an amazing article about anger that you can read HERE. Basically, Marie T. Russell says that you are not angry at the acorn not being yet an oak, and I say, you are not angry at the flower seed, not being yet a beautiful flower. It is a process. Life is a process. Blooming flower is in the process. Growing tree is in the process. You are in the process.


Many people are mad at themselves because they are mad at themselves. 😀 Like for real! It is O.K. to be mad at yourself. We are the humans with feelings and emotions, feel that feeling, know where did it came from, learn from it and move on.

Everybody gets angry at themselves at one point in time, some very regularly, some very rarely. If it”s very regularly, that just means you are not giving best of yourself, you are dabbling. It is very satisfying to go to bed exhausted knowing that you gave best of yourself, there is no room for anger, just a tiring satisfaction. If you know what I mean?!

“Anger, resentment and jealousy doesn’t change the heart of others– it only changes yours.”
― Shannon Alder

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So I was doubting myself that I did something wrong. Why would I doubt myself if I know I did not do something wrong? It is mind blowing. I definitely need to do something about it, and start believing in myself, working on that confidence now more than ever, because being confident in yourself is everything. It is everything!

Imagine yourself being 100% confident in your capabilities? You would feel unstoppable. You would feel like nothing can stay on your way to achieve your goals. That is my goal!

We get angry at ourselves because we know we could be doing more. And it is! We are doing best as we can in every single moment.

We can give more of ourselves right now, from now on, best of ourselves. We can! If we chose to.

Most people give half of themselves to everything that they do, but what if they wake up and they give 100% of themselves in everything that they do, it will make them successful instantaneously. Don”t you thing so?! We half-ass everything.

Never half-ass one thing. Whole ass one thing.

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I love love love Teal Swan. She is one of my best spiritual teachers and she has an amazing video about why are we half-assing everything and why successful people don”t half-ass anything. And this is success factor and crucial to succeed in everything that they do. Find her video below:

If you put 100% in everything that you do, would you be angry at yourself? Of course, not! We tend to beat ourselves up. We tend to procrastinate everything. We think this is not the best time, but when will be that best time? What if tomorrow never comes? Live a life of no regret. Put 100% in everything that you do, and watch how your happiness, excitement and satisfactions grows.


There is no better feeling than going to bed at night tired but satisfied. That feeling of knowing that you put all of yourself in what have you done is priceless.

So if you get angry at yourself  sometimes, look maybe you didn”t gave best of yourself at things that you done today, yesterday or tomorrow. It is O.K. to feel this emotions, it really is, but ask yourself why, and respond honestly. Why am I feeling this way? And how to get to that beautiful and better state as soon as possible? Because that is all that we need.

I really hope I inspired you and showed you that it is normal to get angry at yourself, and what might be the problem. I am also encouraging you to leave a comment, share with your friends and subscribe for more. And please leave your E-mail so you can be updated about newest posts and subscribed to our newsletter.

Yours sincerely,



How To Overcome Shyness

Shyness in the another word is Introvert as well. We are not meant to be closed, shy, quiet, not feeling good.

I personally had a very big problem with being shy when I was very young. I”ve been to counselor and I was taking a medicines. I see now, all the kids that are very young, are very shy, and I think that is normal, but growing up, being 10 year old or more, for example, and still being shy, is not a normal thing.

I am not sure what really happened to me that I changed, but as time was going by, I realized, to holding things inside me, not being able to express them, will not bring any good to me and others around me. It was very frustrating not being able to express myself back then.

Today, I am very loud when I speak. I can approach anybody. I can ask anything. Why? How? Because I realized that if you wanna grow as a person, and do the most out of yourself, you need to face those fears.

I remember when I was used to live in one flat with two girls. We all had our own rooms. That day their friends came to visit them. The house was full of people and I was in my room, needed to go to bathroom, but was so shy to go out of the room and being seen by them. So I was holding…

People do all kinds of things to not expose themselves, but is that really healthy. You don”t wanna live life full of fears.

There is so many books that can help you with “How To Overcome Shyness?”. You can find a courses, teachings, podcasts. This one is my favourite. A guy had very exact problem, the one that we was holding…

Being shy can cost you a lot. I am still struggling to get in front of the camera and speak publicly, but you know what? I am doing it anyway. I am practicing it everyday. By not doing anything, you will never be able to find out what your true potential is, and we are this, people with great potential.

It is much nicer to feel freer. Today I am making jokes, making people laugh, dancing and singing in the places where people don”t usually do these things. When you are who you truly are, you don”t need any approval on the outside. You simply know what are you doing and why you doing it, and that is all what matters.

Think outside of the box might sound like a cliche to you, but it really is that way. Think of yourself and your actions. Will that get you to the place you wanna be? Please, you wanna live the life to the fullest, everybody does, admit that to yourself, be really honest with yourself, and everyday do the small baby steps towards the freedom to express yourself freely, and overcome that shyness.

Again the Shyness and Social Anxiety System was created by Sean Cooper, a former social anxiety sufferer. Learn how to overcome your quietness, erase your insecurities and be confident around people using proven psychology HERE.

I really wish you to realize that life is beautiful, that we should freely express ourselves and know that you are really unique.

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