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You Are a Badass

I am going to be reviewing a book that I loved so much. It is called You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero. I like the funniness of the Jen Sincero and her style of writing. She is talking how you can kick the ass of fear, stop doubting your greatness and start living an awesome life.

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I am still under the impression of the book. Liked it a lot. The advises are very easy and understandable, followed with her life experiences.

If you are planing to write a book just look at the contents on the first pages of the books that you have, and you will see how are they organised. There are the parts, and then the chapters.

Jen wrote a 5 parts, and then the all parts have 6 or 7 chapters. The first part is about: “How You Got This Way”, second “How To Embrace Your Inner Badass” then the “How To Tap Into The Inner Motherlode”, How To Get Over Your B.S. Already”, “How To Kick Some Ass”.

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If you want to live a life you”ve never lived, you have to do things you”ve never done.

Part 1: How You Got This Way

We are all programmed to think how we are just our bodies and names of that body, but we are much more. We are the creators. My body”s name is Maja. But who is My? I am much much more than the things I do. I am much much more than I think I am. Other people programmed us, our parents, friends, society, but doesn”t have to stay this way. Do whatever it takes to work on your beliefs from now on, stretch yourself every day and help others do the same. Help them realize the stories that they saying to themselves. That they are much much more than their “weaknesses”.

All of us are connected to this limitless power and most of us aren”t using but a fraction of it.

You cannot create a future focusing on the past. You need to live in the present and constantly being focused to surrender on what it is, buy keep an eye of what you want to create tomorrow.

Part 2: How To Embrace Your Inner Badass

  1. APPRECIATE HOW SPECIAL YOU ARE

There is no other person that look and act like you. You are very special, unique and authentic. And please, from now on appreciate that. You are the only you that will ever be. You are kind of a big deal. That special you are. Never forget that.

You are responsible for what you say and do. You are not responsible for whether or not people freak out about it.

2. DROWN YOURSELF IN AFFIRMATIONS

Affirmations definitely work. I know for myself. I am repeating affirmations every day, talking out loud, or silently, and it feels amazing. I am at the point now when I am starting to believe all the things that I was saying  to myself.

Now, why you should affirm yourself? You”ve been living a lie, talking about yourself all the stuff that are half truth. You are so much more than you think you are. You are a miracle! You are that special. You are not your name, you are not your style, you are not your degree, you are not your role. You are so much more!

3. DO THE THINGS YOU LOVE

Take care of yourself as if you”re the most wonderful person you ever met. If you like going to live music and you don”t remember when you been last time, now is the time. Why would you not go? If this is something that you really like, why would you stop going there? Nobody is going to bring you to the live music, you need to bring yourself. Go to the live music tonight, and notice how wonderful it is.

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4. FIND A REPLACEMENT

Listen to your thoughts. I mean, really listen to them. What are you saying to yourself when you do some “mistake”? What are you saying yourself for the days not being proactive? What are you saying to yourself after kicking of something of kitchen counter? All that really matters. What are you really saying to yourself, is of big importance. Find a replacement. And say something nice to yourself next time.

5. DITCH THE SELF-DEPRECATING HUMOR

Laugh at yourself every day. Every morning when you see yourself in the mirror, instead of telling yourself “Yikes”, laugh at yourself, and tell yourself how not everything has to be perfect. You are perfect in that imperfection. People often times take lives seriously, but the matter of fact is, it is not that serious. Laugh at yourself every day and notice how you feeling after. You will feel joyous, happy and contentment. Also, beating yourself up is a low vibration, you are vibrating from a victim.

6. LET THE LOVE IN

We need our bodies more than they need us. So, appreciate your body. If your body feels good, all your mental state will feel good as well. I know myself every morning when I do yoga, I feel like the world is mine, and I feel like I can conquer the world, feel like I can jump out of my skin. Love your body, nourish your body with the right foods, go for a massage, give it a hot sex.

Comparison is the fastest way to take all the fun out of life.

7. DON”T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS

You probably not even realizing how special you are. Imagine Marilyn Monroe compared to Kate Moss and decided to loose her curves. We would not know Marilyn like a sexy lady with a hips and beautiful curly blond hair. Picasso is painting most beautiful pictures, you trying to copy some certain picture would look completely different, but you rock at some other things. That special you are!

8. FORGIVE YOURSELF (THIS ONE IS EXTREMELY IMPORTANT)

To be truly O.K. with yourself is crucial if you wanna live extraordinary, fulfilling and happy life. If you need to apologize to someone, just pick up the phone and call them. I”ll never forget when I picked up the phone and call my mother and sister (one call after another) to apologize for being childish and taking things personally, not speaking with them. I felt so relieving and free. Was wonderful feeling. Like the one: “Everything is in my control.”

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It is truly gem this book. It will make you smile and give you that trust of how all is possible, and especially for you. It gives you that sense of not taking things to seriously but working towards your goals no matter what. Do this ACTION today and buy book NOW. It is truly life saver.

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Choose Wonder over Worry

Most of us have two lives. The life we live, and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance. Definition of Resistance is a refusal to accept or comply with something or ability not to be affected by something. Opposite of that is allow things or people to come to you or make that first step and make a risk. Never stop wondering and go for it. Release this blockages and be open to everything and everybody.

 

Never stop wondering

 

“I DON”T HAVE ENOUGH TIME.”

MEET STRESSED THE FUCK OUT.

One of the biggest frustrations I hear from people is that there”s too much to do, and there”s not enough time. “Not enough time”, of course, is a feeling. A myth! A story that when we buy into it, we run around trying to fit more and more into our schedules and lives. We rush from the next thing to the next thing, without appreciating where we are in this moment. We believe that if we do and accomplish and experience more, we will be happier and healthier and richer and wiser and loved by all. But instead, we”re just stressed the fuck out.

Take a sheet of paper and write down two lines. On a left side things that you would like to do, and on a right side, things that your soul craves, something that you really really want.

 

draw

 

“WHY NOT ME?”

MEET ENVY.

I once was the envious seething friend who struggled to be happy for others. When I witnessed others following through on the dreams that were still seeds inside of me, it brought up all kinds of demonic voices in my mind that told me I was not worthy or good enough or moving fast enough. Every morning when I jumped on social media, my story of being so far behind was reinforced by the highlights of others. While it was 9:00 A.M., and I was still in bed, blurry-eyed and yawning, my creative heroes were announcing the movie deal they just got for their book. A couple traveling the world had posted yet another video of their tanned toned bodies, and how they”re making a killing in their careers, which made me want to punch them both in the face. My ex-boyfriend was now engaged and with his fiancée halfway across the world, which could only mean one thing:

I AM A TERRIBLE, AWFUL HUMAN BEING WHO IS NOT CAPABLE OF BIG THINGS. I WILL NEVER AMOUNT TO ANYTHING. I SUCK, I SUCK, I SUCK.

Now, I stop measuring my success by likes and page views, and learned to instead measure it by inner truths expressed. It became less about receiving validation and applause, and more about uncovering whatever in me was ready to come through.

Shine your damn light.

Please be happy about your journey. We need more people to be joyful about their paths, and living in alignment with what feels truth for them.

 

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When you are open about enthusiasm, you will learn two things:

1. Who is truly and deeply an advocate for your success, and

2. Who is truly and deeply threatened by it, and who may even, consciously or unconsciously, try to bring you down.

It is not your responsibility to pull those who fall into the latter category up and out of the crab bucket. You need not be a savior to those who are still finding their way. Only they can do that.

​Jealousy and comparison and envy can devour us, so please do not let how other people feel about you devour you too. I”ve yet to meet someone who hasn”t dealt with some form of envy or comparison. The difference is: those who”ve moved beyond it were able to dismantle the scarcity-driven story in their mind that believed in a world of me versus them. In doing so, they got back to what mattered most: their work, their gifts, and the expression that wants to come through them.

And that”s what”s at stake right now: you best and brightest work. So shine your damn light, and let what you create radiate from the inside out. That”s the best thing you can do for yourself, the world, and those who are ready to receive your work.

To every person who”s fallen into the trap of comparison, remember this: The only person you can measure yourself against is yourself. No two people have the same background, circumstances, desires, values and gifts. When you”re caught up in what they”re doing and how far they”ve come, you”re losing sight of what wants your focus and attention: your own right and true path. Trying to constantly be better can hinder your ability to simply be. What matters is where you were yesterday, last week, last month, last year, and the progress you”ve made since. That is how you get ahead, come alive, and achieve and belong in precisely the way only you know how.

“THEY REJECTED ME…AGAIN.”

MEET DEFEAT.

Think about it: if you were to read the biography of someone”s life, and they experienced a perfect childhood with perfect parents, had perfect looks and were loved by all, and then their work went on to become an overnight success, would their story be very interesting.

I think not.

Interesting is Paulo Coelho being rejected over two hundred times before he went on to publish The Alchemist. It sold 65 million copies, was translated into eighty languages, and set the Guinness World Record for the most translated book by any living author. Imagine if he had given up at rejection 1 or 5 or 10 or 99 or 150 or 199? Sixty-five million people wouldn”t have been touched by his work.

“OH GOD. LOOK AT THEM.”

MEET JUDGMENT.

You cannot judge someone and love yourself at the same time.

Judgment is a mirror. A reflection. It shows you what you”re denying and repressing inside of yourself. It illuminates where you”re self-righteous. It”s a map, pointing you to the place that you”re afraid to accept within. As Carl Jung said, “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” What we judge in others wants to be loved and embraced within us. It”s an abandoned part of us calling out, “Hey! Pay attention to me! Notice me! Love me!” But so often we get caught directing our attention outwardly at them, and then we miss out on the wisdom that judgement is trying to deliver to us.

 

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The monk who sold his Ferrari by Robin Sharma

This book is such a gem

 

This book is a huge gem (diamond). I am really fascinated. It”s about the secrets of life and how to keep that balance between personal and professional life. I will surely come to read this book again and again, to buy my own copy, and make sure to underscore the parts that I resonated with, so I can reread it again and remind myself of these secrets and truths again and again when needed. It is really inspiring.

Do you believe success is your destiny? Are you hunger for more: more prestige, more glory and more money? You will never wish you spent more time at the office attaining success and money. You will wish on your deathbed to spent more time with your family and friends in a joyful moment together. I”ve also come to see that success on the outside means nothing unless you also have success within. There is a huge difference between well-being and being well-off.

“Every event has a purpose and every setback its lesson. I have realized that failure, whether of the personal, professional or even spiritual kind, is essential to personal expansion. It brings inner growth and a whole host of psychic rewards. Never regret your past. Rather, embrace it as the teacher that it is. I have learned that self-mastery and the consistent care of one”s mind, body and soul are essential to finding one”s highest self and living the life of one”s dreams. How can you care for others if you cannot even care for yourself? How can you do good if you don’t even feel good? I can’t love you if I cannot love myself.

 

Appreciate yourself

 

Take the first step to shifting your paradigm with these awesome life lessons from The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari. 

 

1. Cultivate Your Mind

The Quality Of Your Life Is Determined By The Quality Of Your Thoughts

2. The Purpose Of Life Is A Life Of Purpose

The Power Of Self-Examination

3. Do The Things You Fear The Most

Self-Mastery Is The DNA Of Life Mastery

4. Live With Discipline

Do The Vow Of Silence

5. Respect Your Time

Have A “Deathbed” Mentality

6. Practice Daily Acts Of Kindness

By Elevating The Lives Of Others, Your Life Reaches Its Highest Dimensions

7. Never Sacrifice Happiness For Achievement

Live In The Now With Your Children’s Childhood

 

The time is now

 

Investing in yourself is the best investment you will ever make. It will not only improve your life, it will improve the lives of all those around you. It is only when you have mastered the art of loving yourself that you can truly love others. It”s only when you have opened your own heart that you can touch the hearts of others. When you feel centered and alive, you are in a much better position to be a better person.

 

A Most Extraordinary Garden

 

Most people live – whether physically, intellectually or morally – in a very restricted circle of their potential being. We all have reservoirs of life to draw upon of which we do not dream.

                                                                                            William James

 

In a fable, the garden is a symbol for the mind. If you care for your mind, if you nurture it and if you cultivate it just like a fertile, rich garden, it will blossom far beyond your expectations. But if you let the weeds take root, lasting peace of mind and deep inner harmony will always elude you. Yet look at the toxic waste that most people put into the fertile garden of their minds every single day: the worries and anxieties, the fretting about the past, the brooding over the future and those self-created fears that wreak havoc within your inner world.

To live life to the fullest, you must stand guard at the gate of your garden and let only the very best information enter. You truly cannot afford the luxury of a negative thought – not even one. The most joyful, dynamic and contented people of this world are no different from you or me in terms of their makeup. We are all flesh and bones. We all come from the same universal source. However, the ones who do more than just exist, the ones who fan the flames of their human potential and truly savor the magical dance of life do different things than those whose lives are ordinary. Foremost among the things that they do is adopt a positive paradigm about their world and all that in it.

There is no such thing as objective reality or “the real world”. There are no absolutes. The face of your greatest enemy might be the face of my finest friend. An event that appears to be a tragedy to one might reveal the seeds of unlimited opportunity to another. What really separates people who are habitually upbeat and optimistic from those who are consistently miserable is how the circumstances of life are interpreted and processed.

 

All is well in your world

 

All success in life, whether material or spiritual, starts with that twelve – pound mass sitting between your shoulders. Or more specifically, with the thoughts that you put into your mind every second of every minute of every day. Your outer world reflects the state of your inner world. By controlling the thoughts that you think and the way you respond to the events of your life, you begin to control your destiny.

There are no mistakes in life, only lessons. There is no such thing as negative experience, only opportunities to grow, learn and advance along the road of self – mastery. From struggle comes strength. Even pain can be a wonderful teacher. To savor the good one you must know the bad!

I suggest that you stop judging events as either positive or negative. Rather, simply experience them, celebrate them and learn from them. Every event offers you lessons. These little lessons fuel your inner and outer growth. Without them, you would be stuck on a plateau. Just think about it in your own life. Most people have grown the most from their most challenging experiences. And if you meet with an outcome you did nor expect and feel a little disappointed, remember that the laws of nature always ensure that when one door closes another opens.

 

Door to paradise

 

I hope you will enjoy reading this content as much as I enjoyed reading this book. That is just a few or words of wisdom, there are much much more to learn. I promise you, you will never regret reading this book, if you are open for these teachings of course. When the student is ready, the teacher will appear!

Please, leave me a comment in a section below if you read this far, I would appreciate that. And please, feel free to like and share in you find it valuable.

 

I gave my best!

Maja!

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Positive Thinking

Why you should think positive

 

“You can, you should, and if you are brave enough to start, you will.”

 

You are what you think


Think positively and you”ll feel able to manage and do well. Think negatively and you are likely to feel overwhelmed and powerless.

Positive thinking brings hope; the feeling that what you want can happen or that events can turn out for the best. Negative thinking creates a spiral of unhelpful thought’s and difficult feelings. Even when good things happen, negative thinkers tend to see the negative aspects of a situation.

Of course, everybody”s view of the world is different, but if you think life is mostly good, you”ll notice opportunities and good things in your life; if you think life is difficult, you will find obstacles and difficulties in life.

For example, if someone congratulates you on a piece of work you”ve done and you say; “Thanks, but it wasn’t that good”, and then tell them about the aspects that didn’t go so well. In situations like this, for you, things have to be perfect or they don’t count.

 

Conscious Thought

 

Moving on from negative thinking


Recognize negative self talk. Happiness doesn’t depend on how few negative thought’s you have, but on what you do with the ones you have.

Your negative thought’s are so powerful because you rarely have conscious awareness or control over them. You simply accept your thought’s and respond accordingly.

Think of something you would like to do in future – travel somewhere, follow an interest or hobby, change your career direction, leave a job or relationship – but haven’t done yet. Write down your thought’s and feelings about it.

When you”re in the habit of thinking and interpreting events in a negative way, it”s not easy to say positive things to yourself. It”s also not easy to say positive things to yourself when you”re worried, stressed or upset. It”s not easy but it is possible.

If you change the way you think, you will create a change in how you feel, what you do and how you behave.

Just realizing that your mind is thinking negative thought’s means you have already begun to de-fuse from those thought’s; separated yourself a little bit from them. Writing them down can separate you from them too – instead of letting negative thought’s swirl around in your mind, you can see your thought’s as just letters and words on paper.

 

Positive action

 

Taking positive action


Whatever way you choose to see it, positive thinking alone won’t get you what you want.

Whatever it is you want, you must plan, put in time and effort and work towards achieving what you want. You have to make the most of the opportunities, take some risks and be prepared to deal with obstacles, setbacks and disappointments.

 

“Success depends on your backbone not your wishbone.” Kamari aka Lyrikal

 

Having things that you want to do and achieve – having goals and aims – can give you a positive path to follow. In fact, working towards goals both requires and develops optimism and positivity.

 

“No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress, you”re still way ahead of anyone who isn’t trying.” Tony Robbins

Finding and keeping motivation


You may hear yourself say some of the following:

  • I”m not ready
  • It”s not the right time
  • It”s going to be too hard
  • It will take too long

These excuses can often sound quite convincing. But if you believe them, if you stay in your comfort zone, doing the same old activities and tasks on autopilot and not trying anything new, you could well be missing out. Nothing will change and you won’t get what you want in life.

So how to get motivated and stay motivated? By thinking positively, of course!

Decide what is the one thing you can do right now. Then do that one thing. Give it your full attention. Answer that one email, make that first phone call. Start filling in that form. Just clear out one drawer.

After a short time, the positive feelings which you would like to achieve from doing that activity start to emerge naturally. You don’t have to wait for your thought’s and feelings to change before you get going. Get going and your feelings will change.

Motivation is made up of three aspects – what you think, what you feel and what you do.

Recent research suggests that the way you sit or stand can actually affect the way your brain functions.

  • Stand or sit straight
  • keep your head level
  • relax your shoulders
  • spread your weight evenly on both legs
  • if sitting, keep your elbows on the arms of your chair (rather than tightly against your sides)
  • make appropriate eye contact
  • lower the pitch of your voice
  • speak more slowly

 

She is confident

 

Building your self-esteem and confidence


The best place to start building your confidence and self-esteem is from a position of strength. Instead of focusing on what you believe you can’t do, focus on what you know you can do and what you know makes you feel good about yourself There are a number of ways you can do this.

  • Focus on the things that make you feel good about yourself
  • Identify your qualities
  • Through positive personal affirmations
  • Positive people
  • Positive news

Dealing with disappointments and setbacks, trauma and tragedy


Continue to have goals. Let them drive you forward. As Friedrich Nietzsche said, “What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.” And that”s positive thinking!

Perception of the events is that you think you did wrong and now you feel like crap! And the more you replay events over in your mind, the worse you seem to make them. It”s like a game of Chinese whispers going on in your head: the more you replay it, the more distorted it becomes.

 

“Nothing is good or bad but thinking makes it so.” Shakespeare

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Positive thinking: Find happiness and achieve your goals through the power of positive thought

Just a short story about why you should/must think positive if you wanna live positive life.

Because you cannot think/be negative and live positive life. It’s impossible.

That’s the law. You know for the expression; “Like attracts like!”

In order to live positive you gotta think positive. It’s that simple!

Read this book called Positive thinking and I very liked it, that wrote Gill Hasson. Here is the link: https:to/2yqDdFF

P.S. Know that I will get commision if you click link above and you buy a book.

Book is full of advices and very inspirational.

Tomorrow I will make a whole Post about all the things that are very important in order to live happier life.

So, stay tuned!

Much love!

Maja