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How I Got Angry At Myself

It is for real. People can get so angry at themselves, but the anger is a good emotion. How come you might be thinking?! Because there is an emotional scale. Anger is better than revenge, hatred, jealousy, insecurity, fear, grief, or depression. Now you see how being angry is better than being depressed.

This picture below may not be suitable for the angry post 😀 but I Liked the emotion of tiredness and overwhelmed girl on this picture. It shows so much!

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I was at the job doing some thing, and two of my managers asked me to come over with them. The first thing I thought is: “What did I done wrong?!” I came to them and they just asked me to do something. It was at that moment that I realized how I do not believe in myself, and it was frustrating. All day long I was thinking how I need to do something about it. I need to believe in my capabilities now more than ever. Enough of the insecurities, enough of the doubting. If you have any suggestions about what I should do, please do let me know in a comments below.

Self-doubt can destroy everything that you worked for until now, it is self sabotaging. Why would you not believe in yourself, if you are trying hard at everything that you do?

“When you stop living your life based on what others think of you real life begins. At that moment, you will finally see the door of self acceptance opened.”
― Shannon L. Alder

WHAT DID I DO WITH MY ANGER

I asked myself why I doubted myself at the first place. It is an eye opening question. Why this? Why that? And eventually you will come up with an answer. About two questions you need to ask yourself daily read HERE. Questions are very, very powerful. But you need to ask them sincerely and openly, and don”t be afraid of the answer that you are going to get, because the answer, whatever it is, will set you free.

ANGER IS A ROADBLOCK TO SUCCESS

Study anger. I was so happy when I realized that I still have limiting beliefs, because now I can work on it. Accept it and move on, do it better next time, forget about it. That is such a relieving emotional moment. You are getting so much lighter.

I found an amazing article about anger that you can read HERE. Basically, Marie T. Russell says that you are not angry at the acorn not being yet an oak, and I say, you are not angry at the flower seed, not being yet a beautiful flower. It is a process. Life is a process. Blooming flower is in the process. Growing tree is in the process. You are in the process.

THE TRICK IS TO ACCEPT IT, LEARN FROM IT AND MOVE ON

Many people are mad at themselves because they are mad at themselves. 😀 Like for real! It is O.K. to be mad at yourself. We are the humans with feelings and emotions, feel that feeling, know where did it came from, learn from it and move on.

Everybody gets angry at themselves at one point in time, some very regularly, some very rarely. If it”s very regularly, that just means you are not giving best of yourself, you are dabbling. It is very satisfying to go to bed exhausted knowing that you gave best of yourself, there is no room for anger, just a tiring satisfaction. If you know what I mean?!

“Anger, resentment and jealousy doesn’t change the heart of others– it only changes yours.”
― Shannon Alder

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So I was doubting myself that I did something wrong. Why would I doubt myself if I know I did not do something wrong? It is mind blowing. I definitely need to do something about it, and start believing in myself, working on that confidence now more than ever, because being confident in yourself is everything. It is everything!

Imagine yourself being 100% confident in your capabilities? You would feel unstoppable. You would feel like nothing can stay on your way to achieve your goals. That is my goal!

We get angry at ourselves because we know we could be doing more. And it is! We are doing best as we can in every single moment.

We can give more of ourselves right now, from now on, best of ourselves. We can! If we chose to.

Most people give half of themselves to everything that they do, but what if they wake up and they give 100% of themselves in everything that they do, it will make them successful instantaneously. Don”t you thing so?! We half-ass everything.

Never half-ass one thing. Whole ass one thing.

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I love love love Teal Swan. She is one of my best spiritual teachers and she has an amazing video about why are we half-assing everything and why successful people don”t half-ass anything. And this is success factor and crucial to succeed in everything that they do. Find her video below:

If you put 100% in everything that you do, would you be angry at yourself? Of course, not! We tend to beat ourselves up. We tend to procrastinate everything. We think this is not the best time, but when will be that best time? What if tomorrow never comes? Live a life of no regret. Put 100% in everything that you do, and watch how your happiness, excitement and satisfactions grows.

CONCLUSION:

There is no better feeling than going to bed at night tired but satisfied. That feeling of knowing that you put all of yourself in what have you done is priceless.

So if you get angry at yourself  sometimes, look maybe you didn”t gave best of yourself at things that you done today, yesterday or tomorrow. It is O.K. to feel this emotions, it really is, but ask yourself why, and respond honestly. Why am I feeling this way? And how to get to that beautiful and better state as soon as possible? Because that is all that we need.

I really hope I inspired you and showed you that it is normal to get angry at yourself, and what might be the problem. I am also encouraging you to leave a comment, share with your friends and subscribe for more. And please leave your E-mail so you can be updated about newest posts and subscribed to our newsletter.

Yours sincerely,

Maja!

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How To Overcome Shyness

Shyness in the another word is Introvert as well. We are not meant to be closed, shy, quiet, not feeling good.

I personally had a very big problem with being shy when I was very young. I”ve been to counselor and I was taking a medicines. I see now, all the kids that are very young, are very shy, and I think that is normal, but growing up, being 10 year old or more, for example, and still being shy, is not a normal thing.

I am not sure what really happened to me that I changed, but as time was going by, I realized, to holding things inside me, not being able to express them, will not bring any good to me and others around me. It was very frustrating not being able to express myself back then.

Today, I am very loud when I speak. I can approach anybody. I can ask anything. Why? How? Because I realized that if you wanna grow as a person, and do the most out of yourself, you need to face those fears.

I remember when I was used to live in one flat with two girls. We all had our own rooms. That day their friends came to visit them. The house was full of people and I was in my room, needed to go to bathroom, but was so shy to go out of the room and being seen by them. So I was holding…

People do all kinds of things to not expose themselves, but is that really healthy. You don”t wanna live life full of fears.

There is so many books that can help you with “How To Overcome Shyness?”. You can find a courses, teachings, podcasts. This one is my favourite. A guy had very exact problem, the one that we was holding…

Being shy can cost you a lot. I am still struggling to get in front of the camera and speak publicly, but you know what? I am doing it anyway. I am practicing it everyday. By not doing anything, you will never be able to find out what your true potential is, and we are this, people with great potential.

It is much nicer to feel freer. Today I am making jokes, making people laugh, dancing and singing in the places where people don”t usually do these things. When you are who you truly are, you don”t need any approval on the outside. You simply know what are you doing and why you doing it, and that is all what matters.

Think outside of the box might sound like a cliche to you, but it really is that way. Think of yourself and your actions. Will that get you to the place you wanna be? Please, you wanna live the life to the fullest, everybody does, admit that to yourself, be really honest with yourself, and everyday do the small baby steps towards the freedom to express yourself freely, and overcome that shyness.

Again the Shyness and Social Anxiety System was created by Sean Cooper, a former social anxiety sufferer. Learn how to overcome your quietness, erase your insecurities and be confident around people using proven psychology HERE.

I really wish you to realize that life is beautiful, that we should freely express ourselves and know that you are really unique.

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Sincerely,

Me!

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Two Questions You Need To Ask Yourself Daily

It is that easy

Now, you may be wondering, what are these two questions, and why should I ask myself anything? Well, if you don”t ask yourself anything, you might be on a wrong track.

I believe until now, you asked yourself and you continue to ask: “What do I wanna be when I grow up?” But that is it, sadly! Does anyone asked you: “How do you feel now?” I believe there are very rare persons and situations when somebody asked you about how do you feel. Why is that?

Well, that is in the generation of our parents, a generation that didn”t know any better, and that is completely fine. No one is perfect, right? Fortunately, people all over the world are waking up. People want to do the difference in society, and that is a beautiful thing to do.

 

The first question is:

How do I really feel right now?

How do you feel now about yourself, your current situation, and things around you, will really determent what are you going to manifest in the future. Do you feel excitement, joy, happiness, peace, calm, love, trust, hope, or are you feeling sadness, bitterness, overwhelm, tired, fatigue, unmotivated, etc? Which one of those?

Do you see the difference? Notice how do you feel daily, all throughout the day, and if it doesn”t bring you joy, switch it, just focus on the positive, find just one simple and small positive thing, and from there build momentum. That will lead you to one more positive aspect, to one more, to one more, to one more, etc. Do you see the difference? Notice how do you really feel right now, and if that doesn”t serve you, switch to the positive one. Feelings are triggered by emotions. I am sure you can find at least one positive aspect in negative. Dig deeper, and you will find it.

Don”t worry if you are going through tough times right now. There is always positive as well. Do you know about jing-jang sign? Where there is a dark, there is a light. Where there is a cold, there is a warm. Where there is a rain, there is a sunshine. Real matter is, where is your focus?

 

Jing – Jang

The second question is:

What would I like to change about myself?

You see, we walk through life unhappy, unsatisfied, and doing nothing about it. Why is that? Because we are fear-full. We fear everything in this world.

For example, I am very indecisive. And that annoys me sometimes. Why I just cannot decide about something and go for it? Maybe because of insecurities that I had back in the days, I don”t know. But lately, I am asking myself questions, and trying to quickly decide by that first answer that pops into my mind, and taking immediate action, trying to get thing done.

Maybe you would like to change your posture, to have a straight back? Just do something every day towards that goal, just 5 minutes. You will feel proud of yourself, and from that point your confidence will skyrocket, what we all want.

 

Choose to feel good about yourself.

It is really that simple. Two questions. How do I really feel with this friend? How do I really feel in this house? How do I really feel in this job? How do I really feel reading this? How do I really feel writing this? Do you see? How do I really feel talking about politics, and worlds biggest problems? Does that serves me?

Every day do some little simple steps to improve your looks, knowledge, temper, character, business, romantic relationships, etc. The thing that you would like to change about yourself.

I would like to ask you now. Are you asking yourself any questions daily? And if you do, what are the questions that you are asking yourself? You are never going to get wrong asking yourself such questions, and wondering about everything that surrounds you.

I read the book called Mindset, and found these two that I shared with you now. By the way, I even wrote a Blog Post about mindset that you can find here.

I hope this text helped you, and you are going to start asking yourself better questions. If you have any other idea, of what we should ask ourselves daily, please share with everybody in a comment section below.

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Yours sincerely,

Maja!