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End the struggle and dance with life

PART 1 RISING ABOVE THE CLOUDS

1. SOMETHING VONDROUS WITHIN YOUR BEING


PART 2 RELEASING

2. LET GO OF THE HOLDING ON

3.CLIMB OFF THE LADDER TO DISTRESS

4. FEEL THE FEAR AND DON’T DO IT ANYWAY

5. DROP THE HEAVY BAGGAGE

6. TRUST THE FUTURE

7. LET LIFE HAPPEN… PERFECTLY

8. FEEL SAFE IN A DANGEROUS WORLD

9. FIND BEAUTY IN THE LAND OF TEARS


PART 3 EMBRACING

10. FOCUS ON THE RICHES

11. LOOK MINDFULLY…LOOK DEEPLY

12. WAKE UP TO THE ABUNDANCE

13. TALK TO THE CHIEF

14. FIND YOUR PLACE OF POWER

15. DANCE THE DANCE OF LIFE

16. LIGHTEN UP WITH THE LAUGHTER AND JOY

17. TRUST THE GRAND DESIGN

Do something differently

The only thing we can effectively control is our reactions to whatever life hands us.

FOCUS ON THE PROCESS INSTEAD OF THE OUTCOME.

GOALS ARE NOT OUR LIFE! NOW IS OUR LIFE!

We are not simply machines trying to reach our destination. We are hearts and souls vibrantly connected to everyone and everything around us each moment of the day!

To be spiritual is not to get out of the world, but to be more fully in it – connected, joyful, and abundant.

There is something incredibly magnetic about people who thoroughly enjoy their lives, who are relaxed about outcome, of all their endeavors, and who have an aura of expansion and appreciation. These people automatically seem to draw to themselves the better things in life.

Joy comes from expanding our abilities. We are not meant to be apathetic. We are meant to be used. We are meant to fill the world with caring and excellence in whatever field we choose. When we go for the proverbial jugular, however, it”s our clue that we really don’t feel we are enough. At such times. At such times we need to keep reminding ourselves…

I AM ENOUGH.

I AM ENOUGH.

I AM ENOUGH.

I AM ENOUGH.

I AM ENOUGH.

FOCUS ON INTERNAL JOY AND SATISFACTION

The dictionary definition of success says nothing about love, joy, contribution, appreciation, and abundance – all internal measures of a life well lived. So as we go about cultivating the externals of our lives we do nothing to cultivate the internals. Again, it”s not that external success is bad; it”s simply that when we focus only outward, we lose the essence of a life well lived and we push away one of our greatest pillars of strength – our Spiritual magnificence.

In our society, we are not trained to use the power of the Spiritual part of who we are – and it is a great power indeed. This is the hidden strength that emerges to lift a car if a loved one is trapped underneath; this is the hidden strength that emerges when we face really difficult times and come out enriched. The spiritual part of who we are holds wisdom beyond our wildest dreams that can lead us to exactly where we need to go for our highest good – if we listen

Because we are not trained to use the power that lies within, we feel weak and overwhelmed much of the time

If we could train that muscle to the Higher Self, we would find our strength returning, and life wouldn’t seem like such a struggle.

In addition, we wouldn’t be so addicted to external gratification. If something didn’t go right in the world out there, we wouldn’t be tossed around like a puppet on a string. We would have a place of peace to which we could return over and over again, the place that gives as the needed assurance that on a Higher plane,

IT”S ALL HAPPENING PERFECTLY.

Embrace the moment

“Anything worth doing is worth doing badly.”

Our goal is to enjoy, not to achieve perfection!

In the end, we have to stop using other people to fill us up. We need to create our own happiness by detaching from our dependency on others. If peace in your heart is dependent on how other people are going to act, you are living in the realm of the Lower Self and you will constantly be in conflict. As you cut that cord, you are free to live in the realm of the Higher Self where your happiness is dependent only on the realization that you are powerful and loving person who has much to give to this world.

Sometimes things work out the way we expect them to, and sometimes they don’t. Whether they do or whether they don’t, holding on to expectations creates an enormous amount of worry, conflict, and struggle.

We don’t enjoy the preparation for our outdoor party as we concern ourselves about the weather. We don’t enjoy the miracle of our children”s growth as we worry about how they will turn out. We don’t enjoy the abundance in our lives now as we worry about the future of our investments. We twist ourselves all out of shape to please our mate so that our marriage will last “until death do us part.” In essence, we lose the freedom to soar that comes from enjoying the vast riches that life has to offer in the here and now.

What if you knew your life would work beautifully even if it rained the day of the party, even if your children didn’t turn out the way you hoped, even if you lost money in your investments, even if your marriage didn’t last? When we let go of our expectations about events in our life being a certain way, we can allow ourselves the peaceful thought that it”s all happening perfectly no matter how it turns out.

Embrace peace

IT”S ALL HAPPENING PERFECTLY!

If you focus on the learning and growing instead of the anger and fear, you lighten up. Life becomes simpler. The reason things happen the way they do unfolds just in the process of living itself. Remember:

While none of us understands the Grand Design, we can commit to using all our experiences, good or bad, as the building blocks of a powerful and loving life. Then it is, indeed, all happening perfectly!

Be careful what you ask for. You might get it!

Since we don’t know in our logical mind what is for our highest good, we indeed have to be very careful about what we ask for. The job that we asked for might turn out to be the proverbial job from hell! The mate we asked for might be the mate from hell! And so on.

When I don’t get something I had been setting my sights on, I have learned to remind myself that obviously something else will come along that will be for my highest good. This wasn’t it. And I stop hanging on to any disappointment I had. If I don’t remind myself of this higher possibility, I suffer much unnecessary pain when things don’t work out as I had planned.

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