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Why family is important

Family is shelter, security, and first place to be. It is everything when you arrive to this planet. It is your cozy up place.

Not everybody has amazing family support, and I know that this might sound harsh to believe, but hey, what is perfect in this life.

“Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family: Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.” — Jane Howard

Everybody on this planet somebody raised up. Me raised up my parents, you might raised up your grandmother, aunt, or somebody third. That is not really important who, what matter is that they gave you shelter, food and support.

That doesn’t have to be grandiose love and support, but know that they gave you something. They gave you what they had.

Family is teaching you what to do and what not to do.

There are a lot personalities and characters in every and each one of us, belief systems, habits, etc. I know that you didn’t like something that your parents did, but know that they didn’t know better. They had the best intentions at all times, every time!

Family is everything
Family is everything

You learned what you are certainly going to implement in your own life and family life, and you learned what you are not going to take with you in your adult life.

All is happening for the reason.

If you still have your own family, whether you are a parent or a child, are you happy with what you have? Do you feel understood, appreciated and loved for who you really are?

If you do, I congratulate you, because this is a really beautiful thing, but if you don’t, know that you still have a chance to turn your family life around.

First step would be to really see what you have, who are your parents, and how do you feel beside them?

Second step would be to determine what you want to have in your family, how you interact with them, and how they make you feel? You can make a list of the things that you want to experience.

Third step would be work. Work on bettering your overall family relationships, for whoever you call your family member. Working on bettering yourself first, your communication, love, understanding, etc.

If you still don’t know how family life is important, read this article on 10 reasons why family life is crucial to live happy and fulfilled life. Hope you are going to love this article as much as I did.

1) Family introduces you to the new world when you arrive on earth.

2) Family helps us in our various developments like mental, social, physical, and emotional.

3) The Family is the one who demands less and gives us more as possible.

4) Family accepts us in all possible conditions whether good or bad.

5) Family brings out our personality more effectively.

6) Family is the backbone of one’s life that is the main supporting system of our body.

7) We cannot deny that family is the one who supports us financially also until we get a job.

8) We get recognition and name in society because of a family.

9) Every other member of the family has its own importance and value.

10) Family gives you wings to fly high in the sky to achieve your goal.

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Your family member can be anyone

Whether a person is your blood or not, if you have a truly connection with this person, you can call him/her a family.

Our friends are also family. We spend so much time with them. Especially in the early days. We play, we fight, we have fun.

Family is also overrated. Unfortunately, many parents think that they can do to their children whatever they want, but that is far from the truth.

You don’t posses your children

You are the mentor and teacher to your children. And your job is to raise strong, confident, and ready for life kids. They are not here to work for you, they are not your slaves.

Please, don’t get me wrong. I am not saying that you are the one. I just wanted to mention that there are the families that work that way, and I think this is not healthy, for nobody.

If family is important to you, you’re going to make it work, if not (it’s on your second or third place of the importance) then you won’t do anything about that. Both are O.K.!

I will never forget the day when I realized that I was always praising my family, and saying how family is first, but I was miles away from them.

You are not doing any good being separated miles away from your family. Of course, for a short while, but certainly not for a longest.

There are lots of families separated from their mpthers and fathers, working in another countries, just because they have to earn money for bread and milk every day.

Kids are growing up separated at least for one of the parent and they cannot understand why. Do you want to live this kind of lifestyle? Me certainly not! This is not life, this is survival. I understand that they have to earn for the living, but hey, there are other options that they didn’t though of. And it is, there is always solution to everything, we just need to look for it, be resourceful.

Conclusion

Family is really important. It sets you up for the life.

Define what family means to you. What is like living in family? How do you feel? What do you do with them? Where do you go?

Define a term family for you and start living it. Act as if! Do whatever it takes to live the family life you really set yourself to be.

Good luck in that, because you can.

Relationships

3 Ways To Connect With Anyone Powerfully

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To connect with others should be one of your first priorities in life. Why?

Because, it is all about the relationships, and the people that you meet all throughout your life. Of course, you never know, who you are going to need for something, after some time.

So nourish your relationships with them regularly.

These are my 3 ways how to connect with others:

          1. Look them in the eye

Would you trust somebody that can”t look into your own eyes? Of course you wouldn”t! Who are those that can”t see other peoples eyes? What are they afraid of? What do you think?

Next time, when somebody approaches you, and they start to talk, really be for them there, listen them, watch their face expressions, look them in the eyes.

If you do that from now on, for the rest of your life, people will start to look at you differently. They will say thinks like: “I like Maja!” “There is something special about her!”

They will trust you, and approach you, like you are some kind of guru. All of the sudden, they are going to say all their stresses and worries. People will start to open themselves up powerfully to you.

Would you love that to happen? Sure you would!

Two old people sitting together.
Two people sitting together on a bench and enjoying sunshine.

“When we feel lonely, we are not lacking in love. We are disconnected from love.”
Yong Kang Chan, Reconnect to Love: A Journey From Loneliness to Deep Connection

2. Send people love

Every time you are surrounded by people, no matter where you are, just send people love.

If I am in the kitchen, eating by the table, and somebody else enters the kitchen, I am going to send them love.

Just say to yourself quietly this sentences: “I am sending you love!” “I acknowledge your presence!” “You can trust me!”

It works like a magic. They will feel that.

And watch how their tension, or anxiety that they might have, will melt. They are going to feel comfortable in your presence.

Send people love on the streets, in the parks, to your neighbors, everybody that you come in contact with.

          3. See the good in them

If you have any challenges with any of the persons, or certain kind of people, they are going to disappear. I mean challenges will disappear, people will stay the same. Just your approach will change.

Have you heard about the Wayne Dyer”s quote: “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change!” That is so true!

Write

Writing is very beneficial to you. Writing all the thoughts that you might have. All the challenges, stresses and worries that you might have with others.

I assure you, it is going to be freeing. It is going to feel like you have dropped the burden from your back. Link above about how to look at things differently is perfect for that. HERE is the link again.

Situations will change

Because love spoke through you! And they are going to feel that. They will trust you.

All your life you are only going to remember the moments and the feelings that you had, all throughout your life. That is why to connect with others is very important.

You want to do the impact on others, right? That is the only way to go. To try to understand, listen, watch them in the eyes, send them love, and find the good in all of them.

That can be applied to everyone involved in your life. You housemates, neighbors, work colleagues, siblings, family, parents, sisters and brothers… Everyone!

Just be kind to everyone. People are dying to be asked questions. Ask sincerely, and you are going to be amazed how quickly this works.

If you would like to read more about how to master conversations with people, do so here: How To Be Great Conversationalist.

This is amazing article about 10 Ways how to improve your connection skills. I can stand behind every and each one of them. They are equally important. My favorite though, is tone of our voice. So important!

Below is my Youtube video that I filmed couple of days before I started to writing this article.

I really hope you can see how excited and with confidence I am saying, how much this 3 things really work.

Watch this video and learn something new, something that I didn”t cover in the article.

People are craving for connection. You might say that you are going to live forever only with the cats and dogs, but be honest with yourself and really see yourself in that situation for years.

Are you really going to be happy? You wouldn’t experience life to the full. People and pets are two completely different creatures. We need human touch, nice word, and support.

Also, complaining about others is so bad. They are going to loose a trust in us.

I had a situation yesterday when I said that this wasn”t nice of him, and later on I read in the book “How to win friends and influence people” that we shouldn”t do that.

Connect with others powerfully

Because, criticism is futile. It puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person”s precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment.

In fact, Dr. Skinner, the world-famous psychologist, proved through his experiments that an animal rewarded for good behavior will learn much more rapidly and retain what it learns far more effectively than an animal punished for bad behavior.

Your turn to connect with others

With who you would like to connect on a deeper level and why? How would that feel and how would help you thrive, contribute to your happiness?

I think, to answer these questions is huge. because if you know how and why, that would change your social life tremendously. You would feel more encouraged to work on these same relationships.

What are one of the first things that you must do in order to take your relationships to the next level? Which one of the methods that I mentioned in this Blog Post will you implement first?

Tell us in a comments below.

See you there!

Love, Maja!