Category: Mental Health

Mental Health

Stress is the real killer

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There was a no person walking on this planet that didn’t experienced stress. Stress is something that can’t be avoided in this simultaneous world. There is so much going on in this world right now. In a smaller countries, I think, is less going on, but in those largest ones, I can’t even imagine, very overwhelming I believe.

Question for you: “How do you usually feel when you are stressed?”

I find myself feeling overwhelmed, my mind is racing, short breath, feeling like a headless chicken, my heart pounding faster, I have a temper, I want to yell, hurt somebody, argue with people…

“The truth is that stress doesn’t come from your boss, your kids, your spouse, traffic jams, health challenges, or other circumstances. It comes from your thoughts about your circumstances.”
―Andrew Bernstein

Self-awareness is the key. When you become aware that you are stressed and that you need to stop that, everything is going to change, but only if we do make some changes. We need to be kind and patient with ourselves. Everything in life is practice, whatever that you want to achieve, you need to practice doing that, and eventually it will be your second nature.

Here is the video that I filmed not long ago about stress. Watch it here and learn more:

What can cause stress:

  • Money worries
  • Poor management and work colleagues
  • Fights within family
  • Poor health
  • Unfaithful partner
  • Betrayal
  • Lies about you
  • …

We don’t wanna continue this rout if we are feeling stressful. Whatever stresses you, you need to find a way to stop it, for good. Again, it is awareness that will move the needle the most. It is the awareness that will bring you from feeling stressful, to feeling fine about whatever is going on around you.

You can start with writing everything down. Writing is always a good choice. Because it is like you are taking charge, you are taking responsibility about how you feel, and you want to change that. Write down what stresses you, and what can you do to make it stop.

First, you can make a list of the things that the most stresses you. “What are the things that most stresses me in my every day life?”

Second, for every thing you wrote, now write down, why is that. “Why is that this thing stresses me that much?”

And third: “What can I do about that?”

Try, take charge of how you feel, be honest with yourself, and your future self will thank you for.

We don’t need stresses in our lives

Success is measured not by the amount of things that you hold, not the businesses that you built, but by the amount of joy that you felt along your journey.

To help you with that, minimize your stress and become the most joyous person that you can be, read Two Questions You Need To Ask Yourself Daily. I really really really hope this can help you. It is crucial for us to soothe ourselves in stressful times, and to take good care about ourselves.

I want to leave you with a question to ponder: “What if there is very little to do?!”

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Mental Health

Things that make you feel safe and secure

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Nothing on this planet is as safe and secure anymore. Look what happened to 2020, with Covid and stuff?! Thinking that you are now safe and settled is such a great illusion. People come together and they divorce, start their own businesses and then they fail. Long lasting relationship is not that lasting anymore. That is the hard truth, but it is truth.

I used to think, leaving my parents house, and going in another country, starting fresh, I will feel safe and secure. What an illusion! We are living in great uncertainty now, and actually that is what life makes fun and unpredictable, right?

It is topic that not many people talk about, but is crucial to live happy and stress free life.

We all have the right to feel safe all the time.

Do you feel safe when you are alone, all by yourself? Many people can’t. Why? Because they are afraid of what they might hear from their own self. They might hear things like: “Look what you’ve done?!” “How crappy your life is!” “You look terrible, nobody likes you!” these are just few of the destructive self talk people have when they are alone with themselves and that is excruciating.

I loved video by the Julia Kristina about what secure people don’t do, and I resonated with every part. Please, watch it here:

We covered so far things that doesn’t feel us safe and secure, but what about things that do make us feel safe and secure.

Here are couple of points: (please add some yours in a comment section below)

  • Believing in God, Universe, Higher power
  • Believing in themselves and their better future
  • Confidence in self
  • Ability to handle everything that comes their way

Whatever that you are feeling now, know that is all right, and is fine. A great question that you can ask yourself is: “Will it matter in a 5 years time?” I assure you, in most cases, it will not matter in a 5 years time, no matter what are you going through. So forget it, and move on with your life as best of your ability.

Don’t worry, be happy

It may sound cliche, but hear me out. It is so much easier to worry and to imagine all the worrisome situations than to find what makes us really happy. And I don’t mean it literally, because figuring out what makes us really happy, takes a little bit of soul searching, it takes a little bit of time and patience.

Do what you love and love what you do.

What are the things that make you feel safe and secure? And why you don’t feel safe and secure in the first place? Leave a comment in a section below, and let’s help one another with interacting.

Mental Health

Talking to yourself

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Whether you realize it or not, you are talking to yourself, all day, every day.

There are 2 types of speeches:

  1. Inner speech
  2. Outer speech

Which one of these two you do the most? I try to do the both. 🙂 Yes, I literally talk out loud, I have real conversations with me, and sometimes I do pretend that Oprah Winfrey is in my room and I am asking her for advice. 🙂 haha

Now, seriously!

Talking out loud can organize your thoughts, empty your mind of chatter, and give you clarity.

There are so many research on inner and outer speech, and people do it constantly, much more than you think. People sit in their rooms, walk through the house and they talk like somebody is with them, but they just think out loud. They materialize their thoughts of some sort.

Watch my video on this:

There is also amazing song by Mr.SuicideSheep artist called “Talking to myself”. Here it is:

You can ask yourself for advice. No one knows what is best for you, other than you, and this will stay like that forever. Underneath all that doubt and worry that you might have, there is also a wisdom, you just have to ignite it. Ask for it, and it is immediately going to be given to you.

Of course I talk to myself. Sometimes I need expert advice.

Really, you can talk to yourself almost anytime you like, just don’t do that if people are around you, because you are going to get weird looks.

Talk to yourself on a way home, in a shower, while getting ready for the day, in a bed, while cooking, as I said, almost anytime you like and you feel like doing.

It is so freeing.

Any thought on this? Are you going to be practicing talking to yourself more?

Mental Health

Why I have mixed feelings

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It is very important to understand, and to just notice how you feel moment by moment.

Do you sometimes wake up in the morning feeling down? You feel like time is not on your side, and you have a feeling of “something is missing”? Me, many times!

What to do in this case? The moment you realize how you feel, and you know you don’t wanna continue this rout, your shift is happening.

It’s very important to know what you need to do. What should you do to raise your vibe? What you need to do to feel a little bit better?

There was a time that I could survive, feeling amazing, and have a lots of energy with only couple of hours of sleep, but this times has changed.

Now in my 38th year if I don’t sleep at least 8 hours I am going to feel super sensitive, nervous and angry. I am going to look for things that doesn’t work in my life. Who needs that? No one! We need to take time to sleep and rest. I know this is the first for me. Have a quality rest.

Mixed feelings

Sleep, proper rest, and feeling refreshed is crucial, I know in my case.

Mixed emotions can cause many other things as well. Having bad family relationships, a partner that hurt us, friend that laid you down, having problems at work, all that can cause our bad feelings and emotions.

What is in your case? In my, is sleep, and family relationships.

How can we make this better? By having proper rest and just open ourselves up, loving your family for no matter who they are? I think that is the solution. What do you think?”

Feelings are much like waves, we can`t stop them from coming but we can choose which one to surf.” – Jonatan Martensson Source

Things to do when you have a mixed emotions:

  • Go and take a nap
  • Meditate
  • Read a book
  • Take a walk
  • Call a friend
  • Take a bath
  • Watch funny movie
  • Listen music

Mixed feelings can be just about anything. Often times when somebody say that they have mixed feelings, we usually think it’s about their partner, in an early stage of dating, but really, you can have mixed feelings in daily life, just about anything.

One moment you feel excited, one moment confused, the other fearful. Have you ever felt this way? Like you are confused? I believe it’s normal.

How do I really feel and why?

The question above should be asked at least once a day. I mean, asking yourself that question. And if you feel lazy, for example, you can ask yourself question: “Why do I feel lazy?” And so on and so forth.

Read more about two questions you need to ask yourself daily HERE.

Really, anything in life can be solved, we only need to work towards that, and the way you are feeling now, should be your number one priority.

How do you raise your vibration? How important or not important it is in your life? What do you think about this Blog Post? Did it helped you at all?

 

Mental Health

How Chanting Can Change Your Life

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The moment you leave the house and you sit in a car, for example, you can start chanting. Chant about the things you want to achieve, things that are of the meaning and purpose to you.

Say things like: “Life is pretty good working out for me.” “I am on a good way to excellence.” “I am opening myself up to new amazing friends that will stick with me for life.”

These are all the examples that you can do, and more, every day, all throughout the day.

Chanting should be fun and chanting should make you feel good. If it doesn”t make you feel good, just stop, stop doing chanting.

Do the chanting like singing, in a more musical and rhythm kind of way. Make a song out of the things you are saying to yourself.

This is best the video I could find about chanting. This woman describes it the best, and it can truly change your life for the better, actually transform. Watch the amazing video here:

Can you do that? Can you sing the chants? 😀

So I started chanting when I was nineteen, which was about twelve years ago, and it really had a huge impact on my outlook, happiness, and general creativity.

Duncan Sheik
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The most popular chant word is OM. It has great benefit to your brain and mind.
Now, how to do the OM chanting: sit in a chair or on a ground, place your arms on knees with a hands facing upwards. Close your eyes, take a deep breath, open your mouth, and start chanting word OM.
No way is a wrong was, just chant the word OM as long as possible. Something like that: ooooouummmmmmm. That should be perfect!

OM

Chanting word OM can have also great benefits on your stomach, this is what researches say.
Is this something that interests you? Will you practice it, and how often?
Chanting mantras can shift your focus from the unwanted to the wanted.
Let”s say you are in the loop of negative thoughts and you worry too much. You are in the negative momentum, in the momentum that feels terrible. Nobody want do be in the destructive state.
To get yourself out of that state, the best thing is to switch your focus. Chanting is one of them.
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Love,
Maja!