Nothing on this planet is as safe and secure anymore. Look what happened to 2020, with Covid and stuff?! Thinking that you are now safe and settled is such a great illusion. People come together and they divorce, start their own businesses and then they fail. Long lasting relationship is not that lasting anymore. That is the hard truth, but it is truth.
I used to think, leaving my parents house, and going in another country, starting fresh, I will feel safe and secure. What an illusion! We are living in great uncertainty now, and actually that is what life makes fun and unpredictable, right?
It is topic that not many people talk about, but is crucial to live happy and stress free life.
We all have the right to feel safe all the time.
Do you feel safe when you are alone, all by yourself? Many people can’t. Why? Because they are afraid of what they might hear from their own self. They might hear things like: “Look what you’ve done?!” “How crappy your life is!” “You look terrible, nobody likes you!” these are just few of the destructive self talk people have when they are alone with themselves and that is excruciating.
I loved video by the Julia Kristina about what secure people don’t do, and I resonated with every part. Please, watch it here:
We covered so far things that doesn’t feel us safe and secure, but what about things that do make us feel safe and secure.
Here are couple of points: (please add some yours in a comment section below)
Believing in God, Universe, Higher power
Believing in themselves and their better future
Confidence in self
Ability to handle everything that comes their way
Whatever that you are feeling now, know that is all right, and is fine. A great question that you can ask yourself is: “Will it matter in a 5 years time?” I assure you, in most cases, it will not matter in a 5 years time, no matter what are you going through. So forget it, and move on with your life as best of your ability.
Don’t worry, be happy
It may sound cliche, but hear me out. It is so much easier to worry and to imagine all the worrisome situations than to find what makes us really happy. And I don’t mean it literally, because figuring out what makes us really happy, takes a little bit of soul searching, it takes a little bit of time and patience.
Do what you love and love what you do.
What are the things that make you feel safe and secure? And why you don’t feel safe and secure in the first place? Leave a comment in a section below, and let’s help one another with interacting.
Whether you realize it or not, you are talking to yourself, all day, every day.
There are 2 types of speeches:
Which one of these two you do the most? I try to do the both. 🙂 Yes, I literally talk out loud, I have real conversations with me, and sometimes I do pretend that Oprah Winfrey is in my room and I am asking her for advice. 🙂 haha
Talking out loud can organize your thoughts, empty your mind of chatter, and give you clarity.
There are so many research on inner and outer speech, and people do it constantly, much more than you think. People sit in their rooms, walk through the house and they talk like somebody is with them, but they just think out loud. They materialize their thoughts of some sort.
Watch my video on this:
There is also amazing song by Mr.SuicideSheep artist called “Talking to myself”. Here it is:
You can ask yourself for advice. No one knows what is best for you, other than you, and this will stay like that forever. Underneath all that doubt and worry that you might have, there is also a wisdom, you just have to ignite it. Ask for it, and it is immediately going to be given to you.
Of course I talk to myself. Sometimes I need expert advice.
Really, you can talk to yourself almost anytime you like, just don’t do that if people are around you, because you are going to get weird looks.
Talk to yourself on a way home, in a shower, while getting ready for the day, in a bed, while cooking, as I said, almost anytime you like and you feel like doing.
It is so freeing.
Any thought on this? Are you going to be practicing talking to yourself more?
It is very important to understand, and to just notice how you feel moment by moment.
Do you sometimes wake up in the morning feeling down? You feel like time is not on your side, and you have a feeling of “something is missing”? Me, many times!
What to do in this case? The moment you realize how you feel, and you know you don’t wanna continue this rout, your shift is happening.
It’s very important to know what you need to do. What should you do to raise your vibe? What you need to do to feel a little bit better?
There was a time that I could survive, feeling amazing, and have a lots of energy with only couple of hours of sleep, but this times has changed.
Now in my 38th year if I don’t sleep at least 8 hours I am going to feel super sensitive, nervous and angry. I am going to look for things that doesn’t work in my life. Who needs that? No one! We need to take time to sleep and rest. I know this is the first for me. Have a quality rest.
Sleep, proper rest, and feeling refreshed is crucial, I know in my case.
Mixed emotions can cause many other things as well. Having bad family relationships, a partner that hurt us, friend that laid you down, having problems at work, all that can cause our bad feelings and emotions.
What is in your case? In my, is sleep, and family relationships.
How can we make this better? By having proper rest and just open ourselves up, loving your family for no matter who they are? I think that is the solution. What do you think?”
Feelings are much like waves, we can`t stop them from coming but we can choose which one to surf.” – Jonatan Martensson Source
Things to do when you have a mixed emotions:
Go and take a nap
Read a book
Take a walk
Call a friend
Take a bath
Watch funny movie
Mixed feelings can be just about anything. Often times when somebody say that they have mixed feelings, we usually think it’s about their partner, in an early stage of dating, but really, you can have mixed feelings in daily life, just about anything.
One moment you feel excited, one moment confused, the other fearful. Have you ever felt this way? Like you are confused? I believe it’s normal.
How do I really feel and why?
The question above should be asked at least once a day. I mean, asking yourself that question. And if you feel lazy, for example, you can ask yourself question: “Why do I feel lazy?” And so on and so forth.
Read more about two questions you need to ask yourself daily HERE.
Really, anything in life can be solved, we only need to work towards that, and the way you are feeling now, should be your number one priority.
How do you raise your vibration? How important or not important it is in your life? What do you think about this Blog Post? Did it helped you at all?
We are living in a fast paced environments these days, and this is not good for us. We need to take a step back or pause, have a rest, relax, think what truly matters to us.
People breathe very shallow, they are stressed, they feel like there is just too much for them to grasp. To do lists are endless. Do you feel us? Do you feel overwhelmed sometimes?
Your emotions are your indicators. Every day, watch how you feel, and always look for the ways how to feel even better. If you are happy, know that you can be even happier. Comfort yourself! Take a warm shower, put the perfume on, actually relax.
It is a decision.
Decide that you are not going to let overwhelm overtake you, anymore, and do whatever it takes to slow down, practice being in the present moment.
If you are in a rush, you stop creating. I heard that years ago from Esther Hicks, and I truly believe in that. Why?! Because if you are rushing, some accidents might happen, and think about it. If you are rushing, you don”t actually believe and trust in the divine, yourself, and the life.
You miss on something much bigger when you are rushing, and that is the present moment. Put the thought in the present, forever and always, and you are going to be good for life.
Often I feel that projects overwhelm us when we look at how many hours are involved until completion. But just getting started is usually not that difficult. Emily Giffin Source
People think that is normal to feel overwhelmed, but that is far from the truth. The normal feel is to be in the state of flow, not force. We are not machines, we are simply human beings with emotions and feelings. Things happen! We need to learn how to adapt!
Accept that we live in the material world. There is so much going on these days around us, and we need to learn how to take things one step at a time.
Let”s say that you planned your day fully. You exactly know what are you going to do in every hour of the day, but there is something that is going to interrupt your day, look for your attention.
It is in those moments that we need to learn to let go, to what we were doing previously, give our full attention to the new, and switch to it fully, without judging.
Breathe, don”t forget to breathe!
We feel overwhelmed because we let things to control us, instead, let us to be in charge of the things. We are in charge of everything. So let yourself be in control of your feelings and emotions.
It is in our decision, every day, whether to be in the state of flow, or force. Let yourself decide now, that no matter what is going on around you, you are going to be in a flow state.
We want inner peace and knowing, believing and trusting. We want to be at ease.
The point is not to take whole cake at once, but enjoy every single bite of it.
Take this seriously, same as coffee. The point is not to sip all your coffee at once, but enjoy sip at a time, sip by sip. Smelling it, feeling the taste, texture. Do you get the point?
You are feeling overwhelmed, because you think that there is so much to do, but what if I tell you, that there is so little to do?! And it is, there is so little to do! Relax and let go!
Practice being in the present moment, and if it”s really necessary, even though your house is at the mess, make in purpose and intentionally even more messy house, and learn to accept it, and let it go.
We don”t need nothing to do, literally nothing, but there are the things, that we would like to do. So actually do those things, but one step at a time. One by one.
You are not that important.
Don”t get me wrong, but you are not. Nobody is going to remember you, once you leave this planet. Live your days fully, and don”t stress over unimportant things. Because what is really important? Shelter, food, water, clothes, bed, a little money, our family and friends… What else?
Learn to relax and let go.
“Life has many ways of testing a person’s will, either by having nothing happen at all or by having everything happen all at once.”
Whether you have so much to do or so little to do, you are going to be tested any ways. If nothing comes your way, no matter how hard you try, know and believe that it will, eventually, it must. That is the law!
Please, don”t multitask, again, we are not machines, we are humans, and we change our thinking, priorities, within the days, learn to adapt. You can”t be at another place, if you are at this place right now. Work towards that new place that you wanna be in, and don”t forget to have a fun with it.
Don”t take everything so seriously.
Life supposed to be fun. So have a fun with it. Smile, dance, celebrate yourself.
Read more about why do we take life so seriously HERE.
Let us know how do you feel when you feel stressed, anxious, or overwhelmed. Where does it manifest in body? Do you feel tension in your chest?
Mental hearth is very important. People think that what is going on with them and around them is the truth, and is fixed, but that is not true.
We need to learn how to control our emotions and feelings, calm our temper down. It is not that hard, I promise you. It just takes practice! How bad do you want it?
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