#family – Frau Diller

Family is shelter, security, and first place to be. It is everything when you arrive to this planet. It is your cozy up place.

Not everybody has amazing family support, and I know that this might sound harsh to believe, but hey, what is perfect in this life.

“Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family: Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.” — Jane Howard

Everybody on this planet somebody raised up. Me raised up my parents, you might raised up your grandmother, aunt, or somebody third. That is not really important who, what matter is that they gave you shelter, food and support.

That doesn’t have to be grandiose love and support, but know that they gave you something. They gave you what they had.

Family is teaching you what to do and what not to do.

There are a lot personalities and characters in every and each one of us, belief systems, habits, etc. I know that you didn’t like something that your parents did, but know that they didn’t know better. They had the best intentions at all times, every time!

You learned what you are certainly going to implement in your own life and family life, and you learned what you are not going to take with you in your adult life.

All is happening for the reason.

If you still have your own family, whether you are a parent or a child, are you happy with what you have? Do you feel understood, appreciated and loved for who you really are?

If you do, I congratulate you, because this is a really beautiful thing, but if you don’t, know that you still have a chance to turn your family life around.

First step would be to really see what you have, who are your parents, and how do you feel beside them?

Second step would be to determine what you want to have in your family, how you interact with them, and how they make you feel? You can make a list of the things that you want to experience.

Third step would be work. Work on bettering your overall family relationships, for whoever you call your family member. Working on bettering yourself first, your communication, love, understanding, etc.

If you still don’t know how family life is important, read this article on 10 reasons why family life is crucial to live happy and fulfilled life. Hope you are going to love this article as much as I did.

1) Family introduces you to the new world when you arrive on earth.

2) Family helps us in our various developments like mental, social, physical, and emotional.

3) The Family is the one who demands less and gives us more as possible.

4) Family accepts us in all possible conditions whether good or bad.

5) Family brings out our personality more effectively.

6) Family is the backbone of one’s life that is the main supporting system of our body.

7) We cannot deny that family is the one who supports us financially also until we get a job.

8) We get recognition and name in society because of a family.

9) Every other member of the family has its own importance and value.

10) Family gives you wings to fly high in the sky to achieve your goal.

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Your family member can be anyone

Whether a person is your blood or not, if you have a truly connection with this person, you can call him/her a family.

Our friends are also family. We spend so much time with them. Especially in the early days. We play, we fight, we have fun.

Family is also overrated. Unfortunately, many parents think that they can do to their children whatever they want, but that is far from the truth.

You don’t posses your children

You are the mentor and teacher to your children. And your job is to raise strong, confident, and ready for life kids. They are not here to work for you, they are not your slaves.

Please, don’t get me wrong. I am not saying that you are the one. I just wanted to mention that there are the families that work that way, and I think this is not healthy, for nobody.

If family is important to you, you’re going to make it work, if not (it’s on your second or third place of the importance) then you won’t do anything about that. Both are O.K.!

I will never forget the day when I realized that I was always praising my family, and saying how family is first, but I was miles away from them.

You are not doing any good being separated miles away from your family. Of course, for a short while, but certainly not for a longest.

There are lots of families separated from their mpthers and fathers, working in another countries, just because they have to earn money for bread and milk every day.

Kids are growing up separated at least for one of the parent and they cannot understand why. Do you want to live this kind of lifestyle? Me certainly not! This is not life, this is survival. I understand that they have to earn for the living, but hey, there are other options that they didn’t though of. And it is, there is always solution to everything, we just need to look for it, be resourceful.

Conclusion

Family is really important. It sets you up for the life.

Define what family means to you. What is like living in family? How do you feel? What do you do with them? Where do you go?

Define a term family for you and start living it. Act as if! Do whatever it takes to live the family life you really set yourself to be.

Good luck in that, because you can.

Your parents are yours for reason. Thinking that you got the wrong parents, is utter illusion. They are yours for the reason.

Nobody has perfect parents, but they are perfect for you. Learn to love them for who they are, accept them for who they are, and you are going to begin to have an amazing relationship with them.

I struggled for years with my parents. Wanted to change them so badly. Until the day I read the book called “Conversations with God”.

It shook me! Brought me such peace of mind, that I never experienced before. I started to accept my parents for who they are, because book taught me, that I choose that particular people. I choose them for my soul purpose. They are going to be my teachers, for whatever that I needed to learn.

Today my mother is a very nice lady, and my father very sweet man.

You are probably witnessing, that the people who are successful now, some of them, had some major issues with their parents in their childhood. That is so sad! And that is exactly what pushed them forward. They took 100% responsibilities for their lives, and they made it happen for themselves. They didn”t wait for their parents to change. They changed! Their parents taught them to be better version of themselves.

Parents are pushing us to be, do, and have better.

One of them is Yahya Bakkar. I love this guy so much. Love to follow him. This guy is the best teacher to his kids. He struggled a lot with his parents, being in foster homes. He been abused and abandoned. It is such a terrible way of raising a kid, if this is raising kid at all. But that taught him to be better himself to his kids. And as far as I could see, he is doing great job. You can follow him through this link on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yahyabakkar/

In some sense every parent does love their children. But some parents are too broken to love them well. Wm. Paul Young

We often times forget that our parents also have fears, wisher, desires, and many more. We forget that they are the separate beings from us, and vice versa. They also forget that we have our own dreams and desires separate from their dreams and desires.

What to do in this case?

Tell your parents what are you going after and why. Tell them about your websites that you wanna grow, how are you planning to grow them, and why. Tell them that you want to coach people, because people is your greatest passion. Explain that you need to take some time to study human behavior, and therefore, you would not be available for them all the time.

Tell them that whenever you are away of them, you are probably working on your dreams.

Relationships are everything. — Communication is the key.

Schedule some quality time with them
Ask them how do they feel
Offer your help in whatever they do
Talk about your feeling and emotions
Go and travel together
Tell them about your goals and aspirations
Do not react, only respond
Do not argue or fight with your parents
Learn to listen and understand them
Realize they are people, too
Be appreciative for what they”ve done for you so far

Most parent-child relationships are broken.

But you don”t need to be one of them. The first step is to educate yourself. Educate yourself who your parents are, understand their needs. If they are asking you to do something for them, do that wholeheartedly, without complaining.

We often times resist for what they asking as for. Instead, we could do that from the happy place. Happy that we have parents still in our lives. It is a big difference.

You don”t want to regret after a years, of not putting time in your relationship with them, but you want to do everything from the place of love.

Every time from now on, you are going to have some challenges with your parents, ask yourself: “What would love do?” and act from that love perspective. Be love, and act from love!

We never know the love of a parent till we become parents ourselves. Henry Ward Beecher Source

Our parents are teaching us how to do something and what not to do at all. They are teaching us life lessons.

Parents and kids are often times nervous, angry, dissatisfied, and they don”t cease to hide it, but they show aggressively, and that is the bad way of shoving how you feel.

It is almost like, we forget to have a nice, open and peaceful conversation with our parents or kids, and the more we hide about how we feel about that, the more we seem to be dissatisfied. We can”t go any longer, and pretend that everything is O.K., when it is not. Nobody will fix our relationship with our parents if we don”t do that.

It is about open communication full of love, care, and understanding.

Often times, it is not about the kids, but is about parents. Parents are the one that first react to their kids behavior, so parents need to learn how to interact with their kids.

Nobody loves force and conditional loving. We need to find effective way to show our kids for what we want them to do, we need to be confident ourselves first, and only then our kids will with confidence respond. We all need to be great example first!

That should not be a hard work, only time invested, and lots of love and patience, wanting relationship to work.

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We wish you happy parent-child relationship because nothing else matters. It is crucial to live happy, fulfilled and stress free life.

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