Attitude

How to be authentic

Authenticity is something that is of great value these days, because everyone try to copy what is trendy, and all the influencers do that as well. How good or bad is that? What do you think?

I heard months ago from Gary Vaynerchuk, that basically people love love. Whatever is going to be trendy, and it is trendy now, people will love it. And there is nothing wrong with that.

But what should you be doing, is asking yourself every day: “Am I going after that because it is trendy, and I don”t really enjoy it, or do I really enjoy it, no matter how trendy or not it is.

For example, everybody are texting each other these days. There are the groups created for every sorts of organizations. You  try to be different and authentic! Text somebody private, talk with them in private, or call them. Actually connect with other being in person. That is being authentic, being different. Human touch and connection is huge.

The hunger for authenticity guides us throughout our lives. People strive for joined-up living, where on the one hand what they say and do reflects what they think and feel, and on the other what they think and feel reflects who they are.

Stephen Joseph has pioneered developments in research into authenticity, drawing on the solid science of positive psychology to develop what has become one of the gold-standard tests for assessing authenticity.

His and others’ findings reveal that when people are in relationships in which they feel accepted, understood and valued, they drop their defences. They naturally begin to examine themselves psychologically, accommodate new information and live more authentically. What’s more, the latest studies reveal that it is authenticity that leads to true happiness.

Be different.
Put your mask down.

How to be more authentic:

  1. Be aware of yourself
  2. Embrace vulnerability

Self awareness is the key. If you”ve been wanting to be authentic, your true self, and that is your goal, know that you are already successful. Many people don”t even know who they are, what they are, and what they”ve been doing.

Watch where you go. Be only observer. Listen to your breath, listen the words, sentences that you”ve been saying, see who are your friends really. Notice what you wear for example, how you wear, and how that makes you feel. In general, watch how you feel at all times.

It is practice!

Everything in life is practice, everything. For example, if you don”t like how you look in profile, you are not quite happy with your teeth, or you are shy to put the big smile on your face and laugh out loud, actually do those things. Do them, despite of how that makes you feel. You already want them, so do them, regardless of how confident or not confident you actually feel.

Read our post on Feel the fear and do it anyway

After some time, you are going to be so comfortable in your skin, that you are going to ask yourself why you didn”t do that before, in the first place.

People love people for who are themselves, no matter how they look like, they actually like their energy. Have you even been drawn to somebody, staring at the person in the video, you didn”t quite listen to what are they saying, but they had that vibe that you liked, and you couldn”t stop staring at them? That is it! They”ve been for who they are!

Face your mask down!

Your number one job in the world should be how you feel. If you feel like this is the thing that you should be doing, do it, and if it comes from the good intention, even better.

We all wear masks at all times. Some more, some less, and that is ok. It is to protect us.

You are not you from yesterday

The you yesterday is not the you today. And you that you are going to be tomorrow is not going to be the same you you are today.

We are constantly evolving, we are constantly changing. So fully authentic you is you in this present moment. You are who you need to be today, and that is perfect you right now.

“There is nothing more beautiful than seeing a person being themselves. Imagine going through your day being unapologetically you.”
Steve Maraboli

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Many eye and heart opening moments in this collection of thoughts. With millions of copies shared globally, this book reflects Steve’s confidence in his own skin and willingness to share his unapologetic truth about happiness, success, spirituality, and life.

Life example

Let’s say you feel pretty today, and you decide to share your picture on social media, because hey, you feel pretty today, but you say a thing more, you don’t know for how long will it last, tomorrow you are going to feel pretty ugly. And that what authentic you means. I think!

Being vulnerable and really saying what is on your mind and how you feel about that.

It is not sugarcoating it. It is just expressing real you. And that what truly you is. What do you think about that?

The ability to know when to be quiet and when to say something

Being authentic is also saying no, when you wanna say no, and say yes if you feel like say yes.

Many people are people pleasers. We don’t wanna be one of them. Why? We want to be true to ourselves, we want to look after ourselves first, no matter what anyone will think of us.

To do that, when you come in situation when you need to decide whether to go after something or no, take some time for yourself to think. And if your gut intuition is saying NO, go and say no, no matter what.

Of course they will blame you, think you are selfish, but stick to it, believe me.

We really hope this article is going to help you be authentic and for who you really are.

If it helped you, please let us know, and if it isn”t let us know anyway.

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Attitude, Personal Development, Time Management

The power of focus

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Focus is huge. How many times you were completely focused on something? You were so interested in the listening to conversation, for example, that you couldn”t hear somebody outside calling you?

I know my sister was often numb, if I can say this way. We were calling her for a minutes, but she always had that look, like she is busy in thinking something else, contemplating, she had always had that imaginary look.

In this video below, I talk about all the things that I could remember about being focused. I really hope you will like it, and that is going to be of great value to you.

I will never forget a Jim Rohn saying in one of the videos on Youtube. When he was with his kids, he was thinking office. Being in the office, he thought of being with his kids instead.

Do you see how this habit is broken, not good? You are going to be always in lack. You will never actually experience all that you are working on, or experience in the full.

Book atomic habits is huge. We are sum of the habits that we were doing for the years, but that can be changed. What would you like to change in your every day life? Tell us honestly!

  1. Be consistent in whatever you do

  2. Optimize and track your successes and failures

  3. Don”t move on until you reach all your goals Source

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Many people lack in direction, that is why they never reach their goal, or most importantly, they are never really focused. Confusion and indecisiveness is a problem in them. They often only wonder, never taking any massive action.

I don”t know have you heard about the Tony Robbins. Most probably you did, reading this Personal Development blog. He promotes a massive action, he is a massive action freak. We need to take massive action towards the things that we want.

Where your focus goes energy flows.

I don’t know about you, but I often times think in term, how there is an Africa out there, people living in poverty, even though I cannot see it with my naked eye.

It is not in my focus, but there also in another country is my mom and dad, now sitting on a terrace and enjoying their coffee. Isn”t that amazing?! Things and people are happening anyway, despite of we see them or not.

Your focus and attention now determines how you are going to live in the future.

2 people walking along are going to influence one another. The only question is, which one of them is going to be more dominant.

If you are one who is more dominant, your walking partner will have all his or her attention on you, and what you have to say, their all focus will be on you.

You be that dominant person at put all your attention on the good that you do.

People, circumstances, and life in general shaped us for who we are now.

What or who you wanna become in the future? Decide today, and put all your focus on that. Study it, be in it, learn it, try it, and you shall become. It is the law!

Focus on the good within people, and they will feel that. I had so many people challenges. Working with very fat people, slumpy people, stupid people, but instead, I chose to focus on the good in them. And guess what, we had amazing relationship all along. We were amazing teams!

Is your focus on the good in people or bad?

You can see also the power of focus by focusing only on the red color around you.

Do this exercise now: Look around yourself and look for the red, only look for the red color. How many objects that you see are red?

Now tell me what are the yellow that you saw? The chance is, that you didn’t saw any yellow. Why? Because you were looking only for red. And you get what you focus on.

Focus
Focus

Take care of your body

You must sleep 7 to 9 hours a day to be able to be fully focused on what you do. Your mind has to be sharp, and you cannot do that, if you didn’t have enough sleep. It is that simple!

Go to bed at the same time each evening. For example, I go to bed every night at 9 pm. I first read 30 minutes, and then I am ready to sleep. If I cannot fall asleep in 15 minutes time, I would take a book again, and read for another 30 minutes. 15 minutes rest again, and trying to fall asleep again, and so on.

It works for me. I hope it will work for you too.

The only goal is to be well restful. You can also do the thing like “power nap” in the afternoon. I do that as well. But I meditate. And it is like a reset, it’s like you are starting fresh.

One more thing that you can do, is putting your phone behind the laptop screen while you working. It does miracles to me. You don”t have a temptation to check the notifications, but to be fully focused on what you do.

Out of your sight, out of your mind.

You only check your phone if you hear actual notification. Even more, you can turn off all your sounds, and not check your phone at all until the work is done.

Focus can bring you so far. What do you want? What do you really, really want?

Focus is a skill that can be learned overtime. You only need to put the time and effort in it. Work on it every day.

What is your intake or opinion on focus? Are you working on focusing yourself fully and entirely on what you do, or this is not of importance to you? Tell us in a comment section below 🙂

I like to focus myself on what I do lately so often. For example, if I sat down 2 hours for writing, I am not going to go to check my hair 😀 (I know :D), or I am not going to respond to that received message if it”s not important.

I really really really hope that will help you!

Tell me if it did, or if it did not.

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Much Love,

Maja.

Attitude

Why we face problems in life

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Problems are nothing but opportunities, and nothing but wake-up calls for creativity.

You would be dead bored if you don”t have a challenges in life, exactly that, challenges, not problems. Stop even using the word problem. Why? Because the word problem sounds so harsh, and it weights a ton. Feels super heavy.

Face your problems and they will disappear, neglect them, and they will flourish. -Maja Marinic

We talk about problems like that is something huge. We think of our problems, like we are the only one facing them. There are the people that are literally dying outside, no food, no shelter, and we are complaining how life is hard on us?! Shame on us! Why are we blind and not appreciative for what we already have?

We should be appreciative and grateful for what we already have.

Challenges are here to teach us something, to do more, to think, to brainstorm, go places, call others, ask for advice, ask for help. Challenges are here for the reason. We don”t know what exact ones, and I think we are never going to find out. The only thing we can do, when we face challenges, is to say: “Bring it on!” “I can handle it!”

Why we face problems in life #problems #situations #challenges

Challenges and problems are important parts of life that give you experiences, make you learn and help you to become wiser and stronger. Problems make us grow and shape us. The biggest problem people have is that they hope for a life without problems. … Regardless of the result, value the experience and personal growth. Source

Problems are here to make you make different choices in life. Choices through which you are going to grow and expand in life, and therefore, make good impact on other peoples lives. That is exactly why challenges exist.

Again, these are not problems, only challenges, that you think are negative. But that is so far from the truth. Who is saying that this is negative? It is just unwanted to you, it pushes you to make different choices.

Scientifically speaking, positive doesn”t mean good and negative doesn”t mean bad. They are just terms for the balance of energy flow. Dr. Mel Gill (From the book The Meta Secret)

There is a a a mazing book called “Everything is figureoutable” by amazing woman called Marie Forleo. She knows also, that problems doesn”t exist, only challenges, and that everything is figureoutable.

Also, have you heard about the quote that Eckhart Tolle said: “Problems are illusions of the mind”: So true! I think. What do you think?

Life will only give you “problems” that you can handle to.

Think about how many obstacles you have missed? Plenty of them!

How many times you could have accidents? How many times you could got pregnant with that wrong guy?

You see now? How life, God, or Universe, loves you? You are so loved! Your challenges are “Piece of cake” to you, and you know that.

How to solve our human problems #problems #challenges #situations

The problem with us humans.

We like to talk about problems, with all the people that we come in contact with. Trying to find a reason “Why us?” “What wrong we did to the world?”Talking about our problems in life, and how the world is falling apart is not going to bring us any good in life. We like to play victim role, say that we are not responsible for what is going on around us. But is this really truth?

Solution.

Bring solution. Actually enjoy in the process of finding solution. LOOK AT THAT CHALLENGE AS A PROJECT THAT YOU ARE WORKING ON! Research about the ways how to find solutions. Reach out to people, and ask them how they had solved the problem.

Think in pictures. Actually see yourself how you solving that problem, and what have you done. See yourself finding a solution. See yourself thriving!

Yes, there is a thing called see in pictures.

It is a thing that I thought I invented it, but when I started to research about it, and what it can bring me, I found out, that there is a whole study about it, and most importantly, it works, it actually helps you take your life to the next level.

We usually think, that we are the only ones with that particular problem in life. And that is so far from the truth. We all go through the same, and we all want the same.

Actually write a list of your unwanted situations, “problems” in life. Make a list of the things that you would like to change, and then offer solution, for every and each one of them. Research, ask, find a mentor, talk about solution, ask for help, ask for advice (but only relevant people)…

Life Is Like a Jigsaw Puzzle is a post that can be of great help to you. Think about life in jig saw puzzles. You don”t know how the heck are you going to solve that picture of the 1000 (thousand) pieces, but you are determent to, because you will like the picture to look at at the end, at the matter of fact, you even liked the picture the moment you saw it, and so you purchased it, and decided to work on it. So work on that “project” solving thing!

Here is my video also that I filmed with so much love for you, about problem solving. I really hope you will like it.

Learn to know what are the obstacles and how to solve them, should be one of your first priorities in life, because you are going to need that skill after some time, and apply it, to some aspect, or the situation that you are going to have.

Your turn.

What are some problems, challenges or situations that you are going through right now? If you want the support, just book a call with me, and I will help you get through it here. That”s right, through it! You need to go through the things to experience them. You want to learn stuff, make the most out of your life, you need to go through stuff.

Let us know what you think!

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Thanks for that!

 

Seriousness
Attitude

Why do we take life so seriously

Did you take your life so seriously? Are you serious about your life? I think, of course, that you need to be serious about your life, but not seriously go through life, instead, have fun with it.

How often do you have fun? Do you know how to relax? How do you relax?

I still struggle with that. I call myself high achiever, and that is why I take my life so seriously, but I don”t know how to have a fun along the way. Somebody has to teach me that. Or I have to teach myself first.

We should be serious about aiming after our goals. Know our purpose, and why we are here, but again, have fun with it.

Smile more

Do you know how to smile? How often are you smiling? Why do you go to bed feeling exhausted and so serious? Instead, go to bed with a smile on your face, because you did a great job today, and now is the time to rest. Feeling happy going to bed, knowing that we did best of ourselves today, and that tomorrow is the new day.

Nobody taught us that life supposed to be fun. What do you think about that? Do you think life supposed to be fun and playful? I think in fact, that life supposed to be this way. We forgot to be playful, try things out, taste things, take a risks.

Humour and high seriousness… Perfect bedfellows, I think. Though I usually phrase it in terms of comedy and darkness. Comedy without darkness rapidly becomes trivial. And darkness without comedy rapidly becomes unbearable. Mark Haddon Source

Laugh

Laugh at yourself often. How many times you failed in a group of people or you said something stupid? You can laugh at that now. You could laugh at that back then. Laugh at yourself now, laugh at your challenges that you are going through this moment. It can be so freeing.

Open yourself up

What you resist persists and what you allow to be disappears.

Everything truly in life is about what you allow to come to you. I will give you an example now.

True story.

For years I didn”t have a partner in my life. Not somebody with whom I will want to be for a long time. Until the one day when I was finally saying to myself that: “I am opening myself up to a new guy!” And I met someone 2 weeks after.

Keep repeating, that you are opening yourself up, to the things that you want. This is crucial. if you want change in your life. Things are not going to come to you, if you don”t allow them to come to you. Things, as a humans, want to come to those that want them, not the opposite. All is interconnected. I really hope you understand this.

Have faith

Faith is huge! I think one of the reasons we are here on this planet earth is because of the faith and belief. Belief and faith that everything is all right, and that every thing is in perfect order. What do you think about that?

People take things too seriously because they tend to get lost in the moment. To them, only this moment matters. And therefore, no matter what happens at the moment, they tend to give that moment a high degree of significance. Source

Have more fun

We all go to work, and then we go home, and do our tasks, homework stuff. This is boring!

I recently heard from someone who was taking also life too seriously, and someone has told him, and advised him, that he should have more fun. Funny thing happened after that. The person didn”t know what to do. The person had to ask others how to have a fun again. How sad that is?!

If you don”t use something, that something will vanish after some time. You need to use things, in order to make them work for you. If you don”t actually driving your bike, bike will become rusty after some time, and it is going to be harder to drive it. Same thing is about the fun.

Do not take life too seriously. You will never get out of it alive. – Elbert Hubbard

Example No. 2

I just spoke with my mother, and she was telling me how she has found 3 wall pictures on Aliexpress site that she would like to put in her living room.

But then also mentioning that she is tired of the pictures that she currently has, and telling me stories how she regrets that she has bought them in the past, because they are very hard to keep clean, away from the dust, and how expensive they were.

I am telling you, that those decisions that you took, and the purchases that you made in the past, happened because you wanted them to be. Do you understand?

She wanted those wall pictures, she had at that time money to buy them, and she has bought them. Instead of feeling guilty, she has to be grateful that she has had them, enjoyed them, and now don”t needing them anymore.

Do not take life too seriously. You will never get out of it alive. – Elbert Hubbard

Learn from your mistakes

Look at the mistakes like learning curves. Don”t be afraid to take another new action if you have already failed. Mistakes are proof that you are trying. You should praise yourself, not beat yourself up. Those that are successful now, they did more mistakes that you ever did in all your past life. So continue to take massive action and never give up.

You are more than you think

People often think that they are their thoughts, they are their actions, they are their career. But this is not true at all. You are more than you think. There are so many layers of you undiscovered. So don’t take yourself seriously now, and know that this can be changed.

What do you think about whether we should take our lives seriously or not?

I think, taking your life seriously, but have a fun with it, is the key.

What do you think about that?

Recommended article:

This is the great, great Blog Post from the website that I love so much, called Life Hack. It is about 6 reasons why we should not take our lives so seriously. Read it here.

The only thing that I liked the most, is that world is ridiculous. 😀

Which one you liked the most? 🙂

Attitude

The Power Of Belief

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Do you understand that you don”t do those things because you don”t have a belief? You don”t have a belief in yourself, you don”t believe in your dreams. Whatever thing that you are going after, you don”t believe you are capable of doing it.

Isn”t that true or false? You don”t have those things because you lack in faith. Faith that you can. Faith that you deserve, faith that it”s possible.

The power of belief is real

The lifestyle that you are living now is according to your beliefs. You believe you can live that lifestyle, and according to that, you are living it.

If you believe you are worthy and deserving of the better lifestyle, and you are doing something about it, you are taking action, from this point now, to that point there, I believe you can shift yourself within a months.

It is possible. The word impossible says: “I am possible!” Isn”t that an amazing news?

Your only job is get yourself there. How? By taking massive action. Instead of complaining and noticing what is, why don”t you rather take massive action. Only action will get you there, nothing more, nothing less.

You don”t have a confidence? Read my blog post about 3 ways to be more courageous.

Confidence is built also by taking actions. Confidence is built by doing small steps everyday. Little things like saying hi to someone, commenting somebody”s post on Facebook, uploading a picture on Instagram. These are just few of the examples.

  • Belief will take you to the most beautiful places in the world
  • Your health will be great
  • You will have more fun
  • Job will be more joyous
  • Relationships will be fulfilling
  • Overall well being will be great

Keep your dreams alive. Understand to achieve anything requires faith and belief in yourself, vision, hard work, determination, and dedication. Remember all things are possible for those who believe.

 

The power of belief.
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Think about it

Would you take that action if you don” believe in your capabilities? Of course, you wouldn”t! We only take those actions that we believe in. You believed you can have a house, it is a norm for you to have it, that is why you live in your own house now.

And the sad truth is = if you don”t believe you can have a house, naturally, you are not going to do anything to get that house. Again, think about it! It is the law!

How to develop an unshakable belief in yourself

  1. Think positive

How can you expect to live positive life if you think negatively? How? You MUST think positively, to be, do and have positive in your life. Someone or something has taught you to think negatively, you are wired to think negatively. So unlearn to think positively.

The good news is that we can change that, but it takes practice, it takes a lot of practice. But it”s worth it. It is definitely worth it.

One exercise that I like to do, and I think it will serve you too: take a rubber band and put around your wrist. Every time you think negative thoughts, you worry about something, or you worry what people might say about you, just snap yourself with this band. It really helps!

You are going to notice after some time very red wrist, and it will sore. Of course that you live how you live, it is showed on your wrist, it manifested physically.

2. Good health

Nobody is going to take good care about you if you don”t do that. Nobody is on your way to save you from the disaster. Take a good care about yourself and your body. Eat regularly and well. Eat all the foods, but stop when you are full.

Drink plenty of water and do some form of the exercise. You are going to feel amazing, I assure you. Spend some time in the nature. If you can, go out every day for a nice brisk short walking. Your future self will thank you for.

Do you know that also, breathing properly is a huge thing in feeling good as well?

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The Power Of Belief

3. Feeling good

Feeling good should be your number one priority. I am 100% sure. Think about it! Nobody is going to comfort you, if you don”t comfort yourself.

Now, you might be thinking, what that has to do with the belief, belief in yourself, belief in the better future.

It is actually huge! Why? Because all is interconnected. All! At every given moment, you must ask yourself how do I really feel. If you want to read more about 2 questions you need to ask yourself daily.

What you can do today to move little closer to have a more belief and faith in a better tomorrow? Is it making master plan about your life? What can you do in a 5 years time? What do you really want?

Many people wait for someone or something to believe in themselves. I hope you are not one of them?! Why? Because that someone or something might never come. The truth is harsh, I know! But the truth will set you free, it will, it must.

I waited for so many years that someone to believe in me. I even scheduled a coaching with people from whom I wanted to hear how much they believe in me. They did that for me, of course, but it didn”t last long. After some time, I was back again at my broken mindset, having doubts again.

Ask yourself every day. What can I do today to have more belief in myself, my life, other people, life in general? And to that thing!

This is amazing article that it shows you the examples of the people who achieved impossible. How could they do that? Because they believed it is actually possible for them.

If you have both arms and legs, you can create miracles for yourself and the people around you. What are you going to do today to move yourself closer to the believing in yourself even more?

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What do you think about this post? Have you learned something new? And what it is that you are going to do about that?