It is possible to have a wonderful, effective relationship with your parents, if you first find alignment between you and you. But, unless you have achieved alignment between you and you, no other relationship can be a good one.
Your true happiness happens when you discover that no one other than yourself is responsible for the way you feel. If you believe that others are responsible for the way you feel, you are in true bondage, because you cannot control how they behave or how they feel.
In short, seek compatibility between you and you (which means, be happy), and then everything that you are looking for will find its way to you.
How can one move from Disharmony to Harmony?
Jerry: If you were a child born into a disharmonious environment – or even an employee finding yourself in an unpleasant work environment – how could you remain in such a situation and still maintain a positive personal experience?
Abraham: The first thing we would encourage you to do is to lay low, so to speak. Try to be as inconspicuous as possible in your awareness of the disharmony. In fact, do your best to be unaware of the disharmony, there will be no active vibration of it present within you, and the Law of Attraction will then leave you out of any discordant rendezvous.
But if, instead, you are aware of the unpleasant occurrences – if you seek to quell the injustices by drawing attention to them – then you activate a Vibration within you that draw you closer into the unpleasant mix. If, from your point of view, you identify wrongdoing and you point it out, those participating in the behaviors you believe is wrong will rise up larger and push back at you in an attempt to convince you that it is really your point of view that is wrong. Then you push back, and they push back, and the discord looms larger while both sides are deprived of any lasting solution.
When does “Fixing Problems” Simply Increase Problems?
Jerry: I guess, my tendency, in years gone by, was to try to fix the problems. I believed that if I could think about them enough, I could get them fixed. But then most of the problems just increased.
Abraham: The only way to solve a problem is to look toward the solution. And, when you are looking in the direction of the solution, you always feel an improvement in your emotions. Looking back at the problem always feels worse.
It is that old flawed premise again: “If I push hard enough against what I do not want, it will go away,” when what really happens is that the more you push against it, the bigger it becomes, and the more often it manifests in your experience.
It is helpful to remember that every subject is really two subjects: what is wanted and the absence of what is wanted. It often seems like a fine line between focusing upon the problem and focusing upon the solution, but that line is not a fine line at all, because the Vibrational frequencies of the problem and of the solution are vastly different. The best way to identify which side of the equation you are focused upon is by paying attention to how you are feeling. Your emotions will always indicate whether you are focused in the direction of your Broader knowing and your solution, or in the opposite direction toward the problem.
What if We”re fearing a worldwide financial crisis?
Most people are so distracted by what others are doing and what others are thinking that they forget to tune themselves to their own expansion. And when the resulting empty feeling comes, they incorrectly assume that it has something to do with the behavior or opinions of the others. But it is never about that. Every emotion that you feel, good or bad, is about the relationship between your current thought and the understanding of the source within you on the same topic.
Some people are feeling acute fear of anxiety because they are personally, right now, without work or income. But the fear that most people are feeling today is because of their negative speculation about how bad conditions may yet become and the negative impact that those future, unwanted conditions may have on their personal lives.